Not enjoying high school. Hated that fking place lol
not having kids. I still think it was the right decision for me
Spending so much time at the computer
That one takes time to catch up with you.
Intermittent touching grass is essential. ;)
Never trying alcohol or drugs or cigarettes or gambling. My whole life I’ve had a strong intuitive sense to avoid all that stuff, and I’ve never even had the slightest desire. When I was in the army my colleagues would tease me that eventually some day I would crack and give in to the dark side, but nah.
dropping out of highschool. best decision I ever made tbh
I’ve kicked myself in the ass over that decision a lot over the years. It’s far behind me now, but I still kinda regret it.
Not having kids, every time I have any remorse I spend some time around kids and their parents, in about 5 minutes I’m good
I love kids, but I have never felt a want for them.
This is an interesting nuance. I find most children annoying, and I don’t want any of my own, but the love I have for my niece and nephew is bigger than I ever could have imagined.
I guess there’s always room for exceptions.
There is truth in the saying “you won’t understand until you have your own”. The love I feel for my kids are like nothing else and nothing before it.
With that said, I’d never tell someone they would regret not having kids. As much as I love them, they take ALL my time and then some. It is a very big investment of your time (years) and if you don’t want that, that’s cool.
I hadn’t planned on kids or marriage. I’m so thankful to have both.
Same here, having watched how the lives of my friends who had kids changed reaffirmed the decision of not having any for me. You basically have to be prepared to dedicate next couple of decades of our life to raising kids and not doing much of anything else. And you end up giving up the freedom to do things like move to a different town or try a new career. Your primary goal in life becomes having stable income to raise your kids.
The whole “not much of anything else” mellows out as they get older, and you can even share those interests with your kids. I loved the whole process of going to amusement parks with my daughter, watching her go from enjoying but also being terrified of the small ones, to getting used to those but doing the same for the medium ones, being nervous about going upside down, then seeing it wasn’t such a big deal and now loving the big ones as much as I do and we got to experience the most intense one I’ve ever ridden for the first time together.
Yeah, and nothing wrong with that if it’s the sort of thing you enjoy doing.
I’m in the same boat, except I’ve never felt any kind of remorse. How often do you feel it?
My mom didn’t think I should buy a house. In 2009.
I would have been absolutely screwed by now if I’d listened to her advice.
I had the opposite. In 2007 my mom convinced me it’s conventional wisdom to buy as much house as you can afford, because historically it is one of the best investments you can make.
Thankfully all I could afford at that time was a pretty cheap house…
We went for a house somewhat below the maximum we could borrow, hardly cheap because nothing is cheap. But I am happy with it and don’t see any reason to move. I just want to pay off the mortgage and hopefully retire early. Why the fuck would I want to work years longer just to have a house that costs more?
We also bought under our maximum budget at the time. Good call as well because my partner got sick and had to stay at home for a year. We had to use a lot of our savings that did not go into buying a house to pay our bills.
Transitioning.
Tattoos.
Joining the Fediverse
What kind of tattoos?
What molecule is the flower one? That looks sick
Estrogen!
Unfortunately, it will be my only colour tattoo, because I had a hell of time healing that one. My body has rejected all of my piercings over the years, and clearly didn’t like the colours either. It seems to handle blacks just fine though
That sucks, but if you can only have one color tattoo that seems like the perfect choice even if you didn’t know that going in lol
I’m not normally a fan of tattoos (pretty ambivalent overall) but I really like that one and the added meaning for anyone more up to date on their ochem than I am is even cooler 😂
Body only wants big black tattoos and oestrogen, got it!
Fuck yeah ShadowRun!
I started playing in 1989, I’ve played every edition and even got published in a couple of the sourcebooks, so it was a good choice for a tattoo :)
I had a friend tweak it though so people who know Shadowrun will recognise it, but it doesn’t look like a logo to people who don’t recognise it
Loving the birds on the boobs, you were smart to keep them off to one side!
i think theyre bats!
Good point, I only looked at the thumbnail!
Oh lordy yes, tattoos … my mother drilled it into me when I was a kid that only prostitutes had tattoos, and I took that negativity on board in a weird way.
I got my first tattoo a couple of years after I’d finished doing regular sex work
Not wanting kids.
Cons: you don’t know what you’re missing
Pros: you don’t know what you’re not missing
I don’t begrudge anyone not wanting kids. It’s not for everyone.
That said, my first thought when I saw the post title was “I don’t regret having kids”.
I suppose the caveat is that my twins are only 2 and a half, I may well regret having kids when they start getting pregnant, selling drugs, marrying chat bots, that sort of thing.
Edit: I just scrolled through some of the other comments and noticed that the majority of them say that they don’t regret not having kids. The fediverse is pretty homogenous I guess.
Were you told you would regret having your kids? That’s wild.
It’s a lot more common for people to be told that they will regret not having kids, than being told they’ll regret having them… so I think the similarities in the responses is quite natural, dont you? Not a lot of parents can answer this post with their kids in mind, but pretty much every voluntarily childless person can.
It’s a lot more common for people to be told that they will regret not having kids, than being told they’ll regret having them
That’s not my experience, at all.
When I was in my 20s plenty of older guys would tell me not to have kids. Admittedly, these were the older weirdos hanging out at bars, but the source of the advice isn’t really in question right now.
Every single voluntarily childless person I’ve spoken to have had the experience of being told they’ll regret it.
I can only recall two people being told they’d regret their decision to have kids… and they were both teenagers, so even though I don’t agree with saying something like that, I can understand the sentiment of wanting them to wait a few years.
Seems we life in very different worlds.
I’ve certainly heard the sentiment from childfree people before. My late BIL used to call kids “demon spawn” and “crotch fruit” and loudly proclaim he would never have children because they’re such a drain physically and financially.
There’s assholes everywhere unfortunately. I know childfree people frequently get pushed to have kids as well.
It’s just so rude to say someone will regret their choice regarding kids… BIL is free to make that choice for himself, and more than welcome to keep his mouth shut on your choice.
Yeah any commentary around pregnancy or children should just be positive for what that person has chosen for their life. Having or not having children is so subjective and can be a painful subject for some. Better to be kind and not pushy imo
Mine is older now and some parts of parenting are harder, but I still don’t regret having a kid.
Having a kid actually reinforced my belief that only people who really want kids should have kids.
In my own case, it’s certainly been one of my life’s great adventures. The most meaningful thing I’ve ever done.
Being content with “good enough”
This is the mantra of the family I married to. Sometimes a little too much.
Still love them though:)
That’s a damn good answer.
This. 100 times this.
No one has told me I would regret that but so far living like that is great.
There was a time in my youth that I studied violin. There was a lot of pushing to be the best of the best and it killed my joy.
A variation of this that I realized fairly recently is that striving for excellence doesn’t mean the journey towards it is garbage. I can both feel pride in what I’ve done while also acknowledging where it could have been better with the intent to either circle back and do it better in the future (for like house projects) or avoid that mistake next time (for creations).
Like I did a cross stitch of a wolf and it skewed a bit because it had a lot of half-stitching (without going into too much detail, a full cross stitch equalizes the forces the threads put on the canvas while a half-stitch puts an uneven force on it). So for my current one, I got hoops that I previously didn’t think I needed, which hold the canvas in place outside so the threads are less likely to put a high force where they are.
And my next one will involve a better ordering strategy because my fairly random approach caused some areas of the canvas to bunch up more than others. Less noticeable than the wolf’s skew, but still a flaw I’d like to fix going forward but I’m not beating myself up about the current one.
Assuming this is even relevant to the context you mean lol.
Not going to church
I mean, the whole point is that you are going to regret it after you die so it might be a bit early to comment on that
That’s fucking stupid.
There is no hell but the ones created here on earth by humans, often driven by religion
Eh, that’s the kinda thing you don’t know what you’re missing. Contentment and Hope are a powerful life force.
Two things the Church is against. I’ll keep my Happy Heathery, thankee
Don’t need church for those.
On my 5th birthday my parents threw a party for me with friends from kindergarten. My father had a pretty good camera for the time and loved taking photos. This was during analog times, way before digital cameras, so you wouldn’t just take a bunch of photos because it got expensive. He wanted to take a group photo and I, always being a little annoyed back then with the constant photos, stuck out my tongue. He tried to make me smile but I refused. So he told me he’d take the photo of me sticking out my tongue and I’d regret it when I’m an adult that I don’t have a nice photo of me on my 5th birthday. I’m 40 and I don’t regret it. Love that photo.
When I was a kid I went through the boxes that held all the family photos and threw away the ones of me, there is now very little physical evidence I existed at all up in till the mid 90s.
“stop wasting time with that Linux thing. Nobody will ever hire you unless you specialize in Windows”
Linux has done far more for me professionally than being a Windows engineer ever got me, and it repeatedly keeps being proven.
Wish I could say the same, so far Linux knowledge seems to have done very little for me as far as employment goes. I have used it at work before but normally it isn’t something anyone else seems to care about. At least my limited knowledge of Windows hasn’t been too significant of a problem so far either.
I’ve been running some Linux servers for fun, at my last job we also had quite a few. The only admin quit, no documentation. Guess who got a big salary increase because he was the only one with the knowledge required to keep this shitshow running? Yep, that’s me.
Thanks to past me for installing every distro under the sun and sinking years into the commandline, shell scripting, web and mail servers just for the thrill. Linux is awesome.
Ymmv depending on where you are. I was happily employed in the Unix space until I moved to Seattle.
Spending time playing video games. I enjoyed every minute and I didn’t miss out on much.
Not having kids. I have hobbies, and money/time for them.
One of the previous popes called childless couples selfish. I say a never-married 70-year old operating the world’s largest paedophile welfare programme has nothing to say to me about child-rearing.
