I’ve never had any problems in rural Massachusetts (a very blue state, but I live in the red part of it.) I think a lot of EVs, like my Chevy Bolt, don’t look like anything in particular. Tesla drivers may have a different experience because they are more conspicuous.
The EV math works much better if you mostly charge at home and have solar panels covering your electricity use. My “fuel” cost for my Bolt is essentially zero.
Others have mentioned new/used as a big factor. The problem there is that if you shop for a 3-4 year old EV, you are limited to the models that were being made 3-4 years ago, and the technology they had. It’s going to take time for manufacturers to build out their offerings and for game-changing technologies like vehicle-to-grid two-way charging to become standard. Then add 3-4 years for all of that to become available in used EVs.