• pyre@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    i understand that there’s not enough education about the clitoris and the importance of it in sex but the way people talk about it like it’s the g-spot has always made me question what they mean by “finding” it. like, it’s right there. how are you even looking for it

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      Like so many things in life, actually giving a shit and genuinely trying gets you like 80% of the way there.

      And assuming you do actually care, you can’t see communication as a weakness.

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      2 months ago

      Honestly same, it’s not like you have to go digging for it, or like it’s different for every woman. It’s right there.

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        G-spot is very different between women, in the sense that some don’t seem to get much from it and some forget who they are or the concept of language.

        And honestly I was with a girl once who, I swear on my life, basically didn’t have a clitoris. And I really confirmed this in gynaecological detail. You will think I’m an idiot or something, but it just kind of wasn’t there, and after much effort, I found the equivalent nerve endings slightly off to the left and below the surface. We’re talking a target size less than the head of a dressmaker’s pin.

        I will swear on my life this is true, because through dogged persistence that surprised both of us, I did manage to give her an orgasm. But it was the most challenging orgasm that a tongue has ever coaxed forth. That’s all. If I had less experience I would genuinely not have known what the hell was going on down there.

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        i honestly think it might be the result of all this talk about finding it. maybe people don’t find it because they think it’s hard to find. idk. still, public sex education is a must. if someone had said “this is the vulva, and here’s the clitoris” even once in school, i don’t think anyone would have a hard time finding it.