Middle aged guy. Taking zero drugs that would affect sexual performance either negatively or positively. Long time girlfriend who likes sex and can cum PIV. Recently the start is the same where my girlfriend spends a few minutes getting my cock good and hard. I enter and everything is fine. We are both having fun. Then for no reason I start to get floppy. And other times when I stay hard I just can never reach the edge to actually cum. We have also tried hand jobs and oral and the same things happen. Any advice?
No one has mentioned porn.
A good tip is stop watching porn and stop jacking off. This also helps your sex drive.
I’m usually pro porn , pro masturbation, but this is the one time that it might be helpful , since you stay horny/pent up to actually perform more to the way you want to during sex.
Just don’t take it too far.
Oh I’m 100% in the “love yourself” camp, but if you have performance issues in the bedroom go on a break.
Cut out most porn and no solo climaxing.
My issue with porn is that it’s very much acting. Most real couples don’t fuck like that. Those positions and angles can hurt your partner or yourself. Even the viewing angles. If you’re used to seeing a close up banging its hard to get that visual with real sex.
If anyone reading this thread has performance issues I’d recommend trying a “No Solo Nut” month. Only nut with your partner and then go back to self care as needed.
Men tend to Jack it as a dopamine release. Not only when they’re horny. It’s also linked to depression.
That said. If you’re horny and want to release some demons then power to you. Buy a sleeve or torso even. We shouldn’t shame men for getting toys when dildos are openly accepted.