• 2ugly2live@lemmy.world
    6·
    1 hour ago

    I love all these comments like this woman is asking, cares, or is even interested. “I totally probably would.” Okay, but would she??? Why do they think this woman wants to be someone’s last call when she could be someone’s first choice? If I looked at a picture of a regular guy and my fat ass was like, “Hmm, I mean, if I was drunk, and I had no options, I guess I’d take him home” I’d be dragged, and rightfully so. 😂

    • spujb@lemmy.cafeOPEnglish
      4·
      54 minutes ago

      the guy who made that comment is in this post right now saying “you don’t know the women or NBs i associate with [or if i make them uncomfortable]”

      meanwhile in this post are several women and NBs saying “yeah that made me uncomfortable” 😭 listening to women is hard for misogynistic actors i guess.

      fortunately the mods over at !lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world are doing their job to wack this guy.

  • Machinist@lemmy.worldEnglish
    76·
    2 hours ago

    Oh hey, I’m in this screenshot making an off-color comment. We can debate misogyny and such, probably won’t be very productive.

    The thing I find interesting in this: “Italians Do It Better” is an inherently sexual statement. Everyone knows that IT is sex and maybe some other reference with this style of bumper sticker meme. That’s what makes it funny. So then, is it wrong to make a sexual joke about someone who is wearing a funny sexual statement? I don’t think so.

    If she were wearing a plain tee or some other logo, I wouldn’t make a sexual joke. This feels like white knight silliness to me.

    • Redfugee@lemmy.world
      61·
      1 hour ago

      The IT is vague and open-ended, not inherently sexual. Its inherently ambiguous and people fill in the blank with whatever is being referenced. We really don’t know what IT means to the person wearing it, but you chose to make it sexual.

      • Machinist@lemmy.worldEnglish
        23·
        1 hour ago

        This format of tagline has been around since like the 70s. The IT is inherently sexual. Usually something like, “Diamond Cutters Do It Harder.”

        It’s a double entendre and isn’t funny without the sexual subtext.

        So, unless there was a convention to redifine this joke that I didn’t hear about; yeah, it’s sexual. Anything else is just trying to contort common social mores to fit an agenda.

        If it was a big hairy guy wearing a shirt that said “Bears Do It Better” I would also expect sexual jokes.

        • mhague@lemmy.world
          21·
          48 minutes ago

          I don’t view it as being sexual. Too many people wear this corpo slogan as if it’s just “proud to be X.” It could be sexual, but unless I see other things that go with being overt, fun, sexual, joking, then I can’t really make the conclusion.

          I’m not saying everyone should think like that, just that plenty of people can see a woman wearing “Italians do it better” and not think sex.

          And I’m far from being an ace. No idea why it doesn’t sound like sex to me.

      • PolydoreSmith@lemmy.world
        32·
        1 hour ago

        I don’t know how to tell you this, but when people refer to “doing it” without any additional context, there talking about sex. The shirt is undeniably sexual.

    • spujb@lemmy.cafeOPEnglish
      11·
      1 hour ago

      your attitude makes the places you go unbearable. do better.

  • MBM@lemmings.world
    41·
    7 hours ago

    I’m glad that every time I see a “girls are boring/well-adjusted, boys are quirky” meme format someone has already commented on that, but it always comes with multiple “it’s just a meme dude, don’t overthink it” responses.

  • lseif@sopuli.xyz
    11·
    14 hours ago

    thats what happens when you build a community with a large percentage of shut-in nerds and software devs (speaking as one of the latter)

    • MBM@lemmings.world
      4·
      7 hours ago

      This is essentially why I’d like more “normies” here
      (or option 2: maybe I should just avoid online spaces with the (sexist/weird) kind of people I avoid IRL)

    • spujb@lemmy.cafeOPEnglish
      7·
      11 hours ago

      yeah, i try to think of it as an opportunity. i usually try to focus my efforts on encouraging growth and recognizing the hurt thats caused.

  • UnhingedFridge@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    13 hours ago

    The only thing I could think of when I saw that was worry about her own self-image… obviously won’t comment trash like that unless providing context to further thoughts -

    So long as she’s happy or in the pursuit of her own personal happiness (even if not and just doing what she can do get through this shitty life,) whatever she looks like is none of my fucking business ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    Sucks to think of the unnecessary abuse she has to put up with from day to day.

    • spujb@lemmy.cafeOPEnglish
      4·
      3 hours ago

      fortunately i don’t think she browses lemmy, and i’ve seen the comments under the original video from where the image was pulled—they are all much kinder.

      which is good news for her but the fact there was such a big pattern here is deeply troubling.

  • Gamma@beehaw.orgEnglish
    7·
    16 hours ago

    Comments like those make me glad for my instance, I very rarely see anything like them

  • kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    183·
    21 hours ago

    I feel like it depends on the instance, .world is mostly male liberals (who will occasionally act sexist) while Blahaj.zone is mostly Transfem :3

    (Btw I wouldnt tolerate any of those comments on c/Trans)

    • 1985MustangCobra@lemmy.caEnglish
      3·
      16 hours ago

      i seriously think i have to revisit who im attracted to because cis-women sometimes just don’t vibe with my lifestyle anymore. I’ve been online for too long and its changed my personality. I have had relationships with women who would find these comments funny and acceptable, and i would kinda go “eugh” at them and second guess my feelings.

    • Ziglin@lemmy.worldEnglish
      4·
      21 hours ago

      I did not know that. Where are these demographics from? (More male users doesn’t really surprise me, that seems to be common in the places I’m interested in)

      • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world
        192·
        24 hours ago

        .world users suck compared to blahaj.zone. With .ml, you get tankies, but with .world, you get more transphobes and lib normies. I spend all my time here, getting shocked by what’s normalized when I visit other instances. The people here can be horny, but are much more likely to respect boundaries if told.