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Cake day: March 19th, 2025

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  • The real horror is that the person panics when they can’t find their phone. They are just chilling at home, they know the phone is somewhere in the home, they don’t need it right now and they don’t have to leave anywhere.

    The phone will turn up. It’s just a gadget, you won’t miss it if it’s gone for an hour or so.

    (I may be jaded from misplacing stuff so frequently)



  • I know this is old, but I liked pondering the question because I made me sappy as heck, so I’ll share it with you:

    Music is like a cheat-code to life, especially my internal life. The music I listen to determines my emotions, my energy level, my focus and drive, and what activities I want to do. Without music playing I’m like an empty shell. With music I recognise my existence.

    I am not musical myself and I know nothing of production or quality, only what I enjoy and how it makes me feel. I was born to be an audience, and that’s a huge part of who I am and how I operate daily.






  • Hmm. Probably no one.

    Small amounts are weird to need “no questions asked” and large amounts are too large to give away “no questions asked”. Partly for me financially, but mostly because there is a not insignificant risk of overdose if you give out large sums of money to someone being cagey about why they need it.

    If they can’t tell me what a significant amount of money is for, it’s probably because it’s something I don’t want my money to go to, so I’m not inclined to agree under those premises.

    At the least I would need a very good reason for why I can’t ask questions (“I’m preparing to vacation as a fugitive, and don’t want you to have to testify”), but by then there is no longer no questions asked…



  • It depends on if the subject of the sentence (the person) is doing the thing (being active) or having the thing done to them (being passive). Think like this:

    A helper (help-ER) is someone who is helping/doing the help. A caller (call-ER) is calling someone else. A botherer (bother-ER) is someone who is doing the bothering.

    Someone who is recieving bother is being bothered (bother-ED), one who is getting help is being helped (help-ED), or getting calls is being called (call-ED).

    God-botherer is someone who is god-bothering (bothering god). God-bothered is someone being bothered by god.




  • We can’t fix other peoples issues for them.

    We can choose to support them if they are actively trying to fix their own issues.

    We can also decide that even though they are trying the impact is too big on us and distance ourselves.

    But if they aren’t actually trying to better themselves there is nothing we can do except protect ourselves.

    Your sister needs to look into co-dependence and trauma-bonding (if not in this case then for future reference), and focus on becoming emotionally independent rather than confusing nurturing with doormat. She can only fix her own issues, not her friends. And learn that not every friend is worth the title.






  • It’s gross enough to have them be completely unqualified and just pay for a joyride in space while marketing it as some feminist achievement. Why add the stuff about husbands paying? I’m sure Katy Perry is rich enough for several trips to space.

    Bashing women by claiming that they’re only worth what their husbands give them is outdated and stinky. We can do better than that… Let’s hate people in new and improved ways!

    Perhaps for the gross things they actually do and say, like choosing to participate in this expensive PR-stunt to cover up the erasure of actual astronauts, regardless of who is paying…?