Just a quick add: even for my self hosted services, I configure Postfix with Mailgun for SMTP relay for alerts and whatnot just to ensure delivery to my external mail provider.

Edit: a few words for clarity

Just passing along what I’ve read many times: that self hosting email can be difficult. Particularly sending, because the large providers tend to treat email from less known sources with more skepticism (such as by marking as spam), even with properly configured SPF and DKIM.

And if your server is down, you may miss any incoming mail for the duration. I don’t know if other providers would try resending after a period of time if the receiver is unreachable, but I doubt it (just an educated guess).

I love self hosting services but email is something I’ve decided not to touch with a ten foot pole.

I dunno, they’re eyeing you like YOU might be on the menu before long.

This hits close for me in a slightly different way.

I kept up with very few high school friends past college, but one was my best friend who, to my knowledge, is straight. We regularly exchanged messages, and even though we were geographically challenged (he moves around the country/world a lot), I fell harder for him year after year.

About 18 months ago (14 years we graduated from HS) I finally expressed my feelings, shortly after we got together in our hometown for the first time in a while. I received no response and haven’t heard from him since. He’s not homophobic and the worst I expected was some temporary awkwardness, so I was totally unprepared for that.

While the crush has mostly worn off because of this, I’m still devastated that I seem to have lost my longest and best friend. So mine isn’t so much a story about one who got away as it is being spurned by one I trusted. I’m a bit bitter right now but I do hope to reconnect with him some day.

+1 for Fastmail.

I’ve been using it for about 3 years. I’m on the Standard plan (middle tier). It’s $4.20/mo. per user when prepaying for 3 years and ranges up to $5.40/mo. for monthly billing.

Not sure if there’s a (practical) limit on domains or aliases, but I have 7 domains and a few aliases plus a wildcard. Includes 30GB of storage per user.

I read “server” as computer server and was really confused…

That’s crazy. I’m interested to hear the story of the guy at the front desk. It seems like he picked up the phone, but he wasn’t in a rush to either help the woman or call the police. He was more concerned with that monitor.

I like this , but I see what you’re saying about the backgrounds. I think it would look great with transparent backgrounds so they’d blend in with the theme.

I haven’t read it, but thank you for sharing. I’ve placed a hold for the e-book with my library.

The “collapse” of the government in a parliamentary system means the government no longer commands the confidence of a majority of the (typically) lower house, in this case the House of Representatives. Nothing immediate happens, although the prime minister may (or may not) resign, a “caretaker” government takes over until a new elections are held.

Here, it sounds like one of the four coalition parties has pulled out due to disagreeemnt over immigration, which the coalition parties had never agreed on.

That feels like my day.

There’s a new /c/oneorangebraincell community that would love to see this guy.

Interesting concept. The food looks pretty good. I’m surprised they placed a hut directly in front of the view of the falls.

It’s nice to see a fairly quick turnaround after the settlement of the lawsuit. Wishing all the budding new businesses well.

Thanks, that’s good info. If I do go forward, I was planning on going the Ansible route, though I’ve never used it before.

I’ve read that it can take a bit of time to sync when you first federate, but that after some period of time it gets closer to real-time with posts and comments.

According to the lemmy.world Instances page, lemmygrad.ml is linked, not blocked. I know it’s blocked on a number of other instances.

I’m glad that worked. I’m considering launching a personal self-hosted instance of my own, so I may be in your shoes soon enough.

How did you find the process? Did you use Docker or Ansible?

Have you tried searching for the communities first? As I understand it from some other posts, if you try to access a remote community via URL through your home instance before it “knows” about it, you’ll get the 404 error. Someone (you) on your instance has to make your instance “aware” of the remote community by searching for it first. Then, after your instance is aware of the community and federating it, you can access it via URL as you posted above.

I’m glad it’s not just me! It seems like everyone is all about Discord and I just can’t wrap my head around it. Another thing that drives me nuts is that every server has a different set of hoops to jump though before you can see or do anything, and some of them are really strange.

I like it more than Discord, which a lot of subs have been directing people to. Nothing wrong with Discord - it’s great for live chat and whatnot - but I don’t find it to be a good reddit alternative. Every time I drop in I feel like I’m walking into the middle of a conversation with no context.

I love the post-and-reply paradigm with threaded comments, so Lemmy feels like a much better fit for me. Makes it much easier to casually browse and consume content, and participate in a more asynchronous manner.

Nothing wrong with a bit of competition

Totally agree