If you feel uninformed when you find yourself in these situations you should bring a trusted friend with you that is handy with cars, or learn to say no to everything that isn’t critical. If you go in for an oil change but they try to upsell you on 10 other things, just stick to your guns until you can have a friend review it all with you.
The ecu goes with the engine. 1zz ecu with the 1zz, 2zz ecu with the 2zz.