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Cake day: October 21st, 2023

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  • Spoilers below so don’t read if you haven’t read a book published 180 years ago

    It is the greatest story of vengeance ever written.

    Not revenge, vengeance.

    The book is bat shit wild. There are parts where you will remember after you finished and think ‘was that a fever dream?’

    There was a cross dressing lesbian couple or did I imagine that?

    Did he really just burn down the whole house?

    How did he survive the poisoning?

    Who is that bandit again?

    What was buried in the yard?

    So many tangential story lines that culminate in an amazing climax.

    So many moments that are little vignettes which explain pivotal moments in the characters.

    The crazy Abbes relief when Dantes believes him.

    The live fish being delivered in barrels

    The fact no one escapes the Counts wrath.

    Wait and Hope Baby. Wait and hope.










  • I respectfully disagree.

    To me the abolition of gender would be amazingly freeing.

    It wouldn’t matter if I chose to wear a dress to work or a suit.

    It wouldn’t matter if I chose the pink shirt over the blue shirt.

    It wouldn’t matter if I wore makeup and nail polish and be a construction worker.

    Yes, I could do all of those things right now, nothing stops me rather than the feeling of being judged by others, hence the ‘external validation’ of gender.

    None of those things above are inherently feminine or masculine but a lot of us are taught that they are and judge others on those ‘rules’.

    For me, it is hard to fathom how someone who experiences so much suffering from gender dysphoria can then reenforce that same gender expression in society. To me, I’d just rather kids growing up who wear whatever clothes and behave how ever they want to (within reason).

    If all people didn’t perceive certain clothes, behaviours and ideas as feminine or masculine then people would just be people.

    I won’t hope to imagine your own internal thoughts but I am curious, if you weren’t taught what a ‘woman’ is and what a ‘man’ is do you still think you would have experienced gender dysmorphia?

    Also, as far as I know body dysmorphia is different to gender dysmorphia. I.e. I can identify as a man but still want to keep my vagina.

    I’m also not claiming you wouldn’t have still had body dysmorphia even if gender was abolished.



  • Best you can hope for on bumble is a ‘hey’ from the woman.

    That’s all they ever need to say, because again, it’s stacked heavily in favour of women so when they send 100 ‘hey 👋🏼’ messages they get 95 replies that have to carry the entire conversation. It sucks but that’s the reality.