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  • 100% with the people saying to get into a hobby to meet people. You’re guaranteed to connect at some level. Gaming as a hobby actually makes meeting people pretty easy, if you don’t mind starting out as long distance relationships

    I met my partner of 8 years on World of Warcraft!




  • Of course! I’m not saying reviews are pointless, just that it’s ok to dislike a critically acclaimed game, or find value in a game isn’t as well received.

    If a game looks interesting, less than stellar reviews aren’t going to stop me from buying it, but it might make me wait for sale.

    Ultimately, your game experience is entirely your own.


  • Second this! I appreciate game critics and routinely factor their opinions into whether I’ll buy a game sooner rather than later. But sometimes there are imperfect games you connect with, and 10/10 games that you don’t mind missing.

    Even in terms of art: it’s helpful to read a critic’s impression on an art piece, but it’s also worth it to experience it yourself and form your own opinions.



  • I’m the oldest. I have a younger sister and brother.

    We’re all close and extremely comfortable with each other, but they’re closer with each other than me, given their closeness in age.

    I don’t live at home with them anymore, but our relationship always feels natural and picks up where it left off even after being away for so long. I think we’ve been fortunate in that we’ve never felt to the need to compete with each other, and I think of them as a constant in my life that that I can always count on

    Edit: removed some age info




  • I think you nailed it on the head yourself - that all the things you’re feeling are for a “squandered past, not a realistic future.”

    I’ve struggled with this situation as well, and those feelings never last. The other person feels like an “escape” from your current partner because they are a mystery. I love my SO, but I know all the dirty minutiae of living together for 7 years. He tends to fart loudly in the toilet when he thinks I’m asleep still, and sometimes lets his toenails get too long.

    The little details like that don’t give your imagination much leeway, where a prospective life with another person is full of possibilities.

    Don’t let this new person be an excuse to throw away your current relationship. It throwing such a huge wrench in your system is indicative of something being amiss in your marriage. Maybe there’s some distance, or needs not being met.

    Crushes on other people happen in long term relationships, and are normal, but the response in a healthy relationship is being able to recognize that the lovesickness is fleeting. The bond with the new person isn’t fate: it’s just filling a hole at the moment.

    Edit: a good test is this - if the other person had never come back into your life, would you still be happier if you left your wife? If the answer is yes, then perhaps you need to rethink your relationship, but do it alone. Don’t jump to a new one right away without sorting out the baggage from the previous one


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    1 year ago

    I don’t know if I have ADHD, but I struggle with this as well! Sometimes I’ll write a message/email and there’s a paren after every other sentence.

    Lately I’ve been making an effort to substitute with a semicolon or bridge the thoughts with a dash:

    “I’m thinking this - but I also think this.”

    Unsure if that’s a correct usage of punctuation, but I feel like it helps the sentence feel more focused and an expansion of the thought, rather than a random segue (especially with work)

    Edit: realized that I had broken my own rule seconds after posting