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Cake day: July 22nd, 2026

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  • I don’t post my children either, but this little girl has an obvious and non hidden difference. It looks like she doesn’t have eyeballs.

    So you’re a parent, first obligation to your child. But even inside that world there are some competing pulls:

    1. You want to build her a more accepting world. There is a perception that different physical appearances need to be covered up or hidden or not displayed. This can make people less accepting becuase they encounter it less often. If I’m her parent I want to normalize people showing off these differences so she is more accepted.

    2.You don’t her to ever think you’re ashamed of her. Many parents post often and loudly. It’s a concern that she could get a negative perception of this privacy as she gets older.












  • I write to you all from the parents table.

    It began lame as hell. I was a single man with a married brother who had a young child. I was clearly there to keep them company.

    Later, there I was with my own child. At a table of people I didn’t know with children. Next to the goddamn speaker.

    Then, I’m happy to report, I was at one of my favorite cousins weddings. I was there with her oldest brother and his child my kids age. And a bunch of other people with kids that age. And it was awesome. Finally.

    I submit the best table at a wedding is one that you really fit in with. Whatever commonality that may be.




  • But that’s fundamentally a flawed argument. It’s more expensive becuase death penalty cases have more rights. Specifically in the US what is called “actual innocence” is not grounds for an appeal to a life sentence but is for a death penalty.

    Ideally we would extend that everyone, not save a few bucks and justify continued incarceration of innocent people by noting “hey it’s not a death sentence.”

    Imagine the scenario of an innocent person who can’t appeal becuase the trail was fair but would have been freed if they had been sentenced to death, but becuase of the judge or jury’s mercy, they are imprisoned for life.

    That has happened here.

    Not think a great argument for abolishing the death penalty since it fundamentally is just saying “it is way too expensive to let any prisoners appeal based on being innocent. We could save so much money if didn’t let anyone do that.”