• Tango@piefed.ca
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    1 day ago

    I have a rule: “sorry means you won’t do it again”. If I’m about to say sorry for something, I perform a thought experiment: if a similar situation arose and I had the same choice to make again, would I? If the answer is “yes”, then I’m not sorry and I shouldn’t say that I am.

    • Katana314@lemmy.world
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      3 hours ago

      There’s some annoying moments in my mind where people are in a rush to get a celebrity to “Say sorry” for their actions, as if that’s the important part.

      In some cases, it seems feasible to me, even if I agree with the issue, that the celebrity doesn’t understand what makes their actions a severe problem. Some mistakes are complex. The rush should be to have a conversation where they understand. Sorry comes after.

      You do NOT want celebrities feeling an antagonistic relationship with their fans where they’re forcing hollow apologies.

    • tetris11@feddit.uk
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      24 hours ago

      “I’m sorry you feel that way” is probably the best response, before you blackout from the ensuing choking

    • Korval@lemmy.today
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      5 hours ago

      Not even that; the use of “may” makes the whole thing hypothetical. He hasn’t actually acknowledged doing anything wrong.