I’ve actually been wondering about this for a while. Realised this is a really good place to ask!

So when you’re dating someone in Malaysia. How often do you like to check in with your partner? How much is too much or too little?

I’m a pretty independent nyet so once every couple days feels about right for me. And maybe share some funny link if it pops up. Any more and I start feeling this slightly smothering obligation hanging in the air. But I’ve heard a pretty wide range on what people think is normal / makes them insecure. Like some couples wish each other good morning and good night every single day kinda thing. (But also some couples wear 100% matching outfits when they go out. Pls just let me die instead)

  • jellodi@monyet.ccMEnglish
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    1 year ago

    What are you seeking out of a relationship? I can’t really wrap around my head a relationship that can go on days without checking in. Feels like you’re still very much talking about relos long-distance style, or also possibly living apart.

    I mean, if you guys lived together, talking once a couple of days would be a problem, me thinks, haha ^^"

    • dcx@monyet.ccOPEnglish
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      1 year ago

      Haha nooo living together would be fine! It’s not like I don’t enjoy seeing my partner. The pain factor is more about the obligation to stay in constant contact (check phone etc). For some reason that makes me feel like I can’t switch off and relax.

      Maybe this is just my house hobbit ways but I do not like being easily reachable. My phone is on DND almost all the time. How do people think if you can be interrupted by a buzz or a ding or a whatever at any second??

      And lol I can’t imagine living together with someone and not wanting to see them more than once every two days. Into the cellar with ye wench!

      • jellodi@monyet.ccMEnglish
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        1 year ago

        Hmm you still haven’t answered my question tho. What are you seeking out of this relationship, emotionally and physically?

        • dcx@monyet.ccOPEnglish
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          1 year ago

          I dunno, same thing everyone wants out of a relationship, I think? All that filthy

          spoiler

          hand holding and headpats

          Spoilers aren’t fun on Lemmy :<

          • jellodi@monyet.ccMEnglish
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            1 year ago

            oh wait yeah you did answer me lmao

            so physical but minimal on the emotional side of it

            typical I may know someone to introduce to you…

            • dcx@monyet.ccOPEnglish
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              1 year ago

              Garr I see what you’re doing and I’m not gonna be clickbaited into a reply here lolol

              • jellodi@monyet.ccMEnglish
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                1 year ago

                gotta generate that engagement to hit KPI before my boss comes back for evaluation in August bro tolong sikit