My [28M] friend [32M] has been dating his bisexual girlfriend [32F] for 7 years; they have a kid together, but they recently broke up. He was EXTREMELY controlling and hit her once; he’s a huge Trump supporter. Red Pill guy loves Andrew Tate, Andrew Wilson, Fresh N Fit and other Red Pill gurus.

So recently they broke up, and she started seeing a 22-year-old woman nurse who just graduated from nursing school. She’s having a get-together and invited my friend’s ex, and my friend’s ex completely lost his shit because she’s going to the get-together. He yelled at her and screamed at her and even almost got physical with her until she just left.

And I decided I couldn’t be friends with him after that.

My parents told me I was being a bad friend; he’s going through a lot, and I’m being “selfish”.

AITAH?

  • Skeezix@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    27 days ago

    You are not the asshole. Part of your own integrity and respectability is determined by the friends you keep. Remaining friends with a person who physically assaults other people would be a stain on your own honour. Even aside from the violence, a person being maga should be an instant showstopper.

    So you’re wondering if you’re in the wrong for ditching a person who physically assaults other people, has a shit temper, supports influencers who espouse a fascist racist sexist world view?

    There is nothing to see here. Move on. If your parents are sweating you because they are low grade maga, you should ditch them too.

  • Zedstrian@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    2·
    27 days ago

    NTA; I can understand the dilemma in ending the friendship if you’ve known him for a long time, but assault is a red line that gives you every right to distance yourself from him and his actions.