• NABDad@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    5 months ago

    I’m the, “could be worse”, guy for my wife. No matter how bad things are, I can always imagine something entirely possible that would be worse.

    I don’t know if it helps her at all, but she seems to be amused by it.

    I live in a world of ever-present, looming disaster.

    I’m a sysadmin.

  • know_your_place@eviltoast.org
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    5 months ago

    Am I the only one that these empty platitudes make feel worse??

    How are people happy to be told all that, based on nothing at all. Cause and effect, if there’s no cause the effect is invalid.

    • rautapekoni@sopuli.xyz
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      5 months ago

      Nah, I don’t respect the parts about it being temporary and me being able to beat it too much either. I don’t mind the drive-by positivity as such, but assuming I’ll ever be able to get better when the reality is different does not make absorbing the positivity very easy.

  • starlinguk@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    No, I will not beat this. Illness isn’t something you beat, it’s something someone cures. Or not.

    I don’t like the implication that if you don’t get better you’re not fighting hard enough.

    • gndagreborn@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      5 months ago

      It depends on where you are in life and your current head space. There is a debate about ‘toxic positivity propaganda’ being used to shift decreased morale from systemic issues onto individuals, but it’s very muddy territory.

      Some people just shut out this messaging. Others can find it encouraging when no one else is in their corner.