• cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      6 months ago

      Okay but consider this black leather jacket to go with, or some accessories so you don’t get mistaken for a tech bro. Maybe a mixed fabric panel to show that region you’ve been working out? Vest or unbuttonable portion?

      Or pants of some sort to go with it? Maybe?

      I’m not straight, I dont even like you people, but for fuck’s sake learn to dress yourselves so I dont need to console my (often hot) straight friends or hear their absolutely heartbreaking ‘he used conditioner and owns two pairs of jeans in different styles!’ Exclamations of joy.

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        6 months ago

        No thanks, I’ll keep buying bulk black t-shirts and optionally MAYBE wear a hoodie and switch from shorts to jeans when it’s cold out.

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            6 months ago

            I’m hoping whoever I one day end up with, actually likes my personality not my things or style. To that end, I also now drive an old beater.

            But the clothes are more about efficiency, yes. I have 20 pairs of the same socks too so I don’t have to look for pairs.

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              6 months ago

              Style is a display and telegraphing of your personality.¹

              Also, unless you’re ace, you probably want her to think you’re hot. You know how you like when a lady knows how to clothes good and dresses up and looks really fucking hot?

              She wants something roughly equivalent, but has given up and dismissed it as fantasy.

              If you wear something very fancy, it doesn’t just say ‘I am fancy’ it says ‘this is what I think is fancy, and I’m confident enough to wear it around and take the risk’.

              Like, you wouldn’t expect the same behavior and relationship from punk leather jacket guy, lumberjack, bard, thinks-hes-a-wizard, business-devil, and the guy wearing a silk button down hentai print shirt with a first-Doctor-scarf aviator goggles mirror shined shoes but fully donald-ducking it. Would you?