• dingus@lemmy.worldEnglish
    16·
    1 year ago

    I find it incredibly interesting that people knew the always wanted things like that…a spouse, a grand wedding, children of their own. I don’t think I’ve ever really thought that way about those things.

    • MyDarkestTimeline01@ani.social
      16·
      1 year ago

      When I was not an adult I thought I wanted a family. It wasn’t until I became an adult and started to interact with children as one that I learned I DID NOT want one. And I’ve heard all the platitudes.

        • MyDarkestTimeline01@ani.social
          7·
          1 year ago

          My retort usually has to do with people who when I tell them that I don’t want to have to tolerate children tell me that it’ll be different when the children are my own. I tell them that if they’re a good parent they probably have encountered a hundred times where their child has been difficult or unruly or just some form of stressful but all of those hundred times disappear during that one moment where they get to see their kid smile or overcome a challenge or succeed in some way. Which usually you know causes them to get you know happy or nostalgic thinking back on a moment like that. To which I then say I would trade 100 of those moments that you’re thinking about right now for one day of not having to get up before the sun.

  • ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    12·
    1 year ago

    I wanted to conquer the world like Alexander the Great. I’m not sure why that appealed to me, in retrospect.

    (A friend gave me some advice a few years ago. He said “You’re much more normal than you like to think. You have normal needs and you will be happy if you live a normal life.” I don’t know if he’s right.)