Hi all. I have a fairly lengthy (but short) list of things I would want to do to my son if I was ever to be considered for fatherhood, and I figure if this qualifies as early I'll do it. \n\nI'm asking because I feel this would be the most logical step in the right direction for him, in terms of starting a career, being able to provide and be around for his interests, and generally being a good dad. I don't want him to grow up resenting me (or my wife) for any of these reasons. I just want to be an equal partner with him.\n\nSome context for those of you who don't speak/speak English: I'm 27 and was born in South Africa, my parents came over here relatively recently on visa. They've done a fantastic job of raising me, teaching me the trade, instilling in me the values of being a good partner and a compassionate humandead. I think they did a fantastic job with me objections to the stereotypes they put on me, discrediting some of them, whilst also setting boundaries for how I should act/ talk if I ever felt disrespected or left out. I think I have some Australian in me, which I've been working to include more, and give him opportunities to grow from. \n\nMy father recently died of cancer. I really want to honor his memory by doing something really, really, special for him. I have already put together a team of people to help pay for his funeral expenses, as I am a full member of the Uniting Church (I started as a lay person a few years back). I've offered to help any family in Australia who may be in a similar position as mine, though it will probably take a while as there are other family members who are closer in income. I'm not sure if I'll try to make a formal announcement or just leave it as an opening statement. I just wanted to get this off my chest. Thank you all.