• RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com
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    8 months ago

    I don’t see the point. MFM makes sense to me, that’s doing things I can’t do with one guy. Or if he or I was bi and wanted that kind of threesome, or pileup, that makes sense.

    But if I’m already with the guy I love and enjoy sex with, what’s the point of just doing the same things with someone else? Straight swap I don’t really understand

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      For swapping to make sense both the husband and wife have to have the same level of desire for sex. The wife definitely has to be orgasmic. And then it becomes just a hobby of wanting a bit of variety of who you fuck. You really have to have the mind set that you are happy in your marriage but sex with others is purely an erotic physical thing.

      • some_guy@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        8 months ago

        Sounds like you want to have your cake and eat it too but 🤷

        Find someone you like to fuck and you don’t have to worry about dumb shit like this.

          • some_guy@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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            8 months ago

            lol

            if “don’t be selfish, find someone you love to fuck” is “yukking a yum” y’all are in way too fucking deep.

            get your head out of your ass.

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              I’m in a 20+ year monogamous relationship. I’m saying keep your head out of your ass and acknowledge that people have sexual preferences that differ from your conservative-ass worldview

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                  If their yukking is pissing on your yumming - which is to piss on other people’s pleasures for the sole purpose of hearing your own voice, then I’m yukking too

                  Adults are talking. In fact, no children should be present here at all. If you got nothing productive to add, pipe down.

                  Lifestyles exist beyond the ones you’ve personally chosen to enjoy.

                  You do realize, that not every sign written in another language is talking about you, right? That’s how yr coming off. Tone it back and it’s all good, everyone moves along

      • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com
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        8 months ago

        I’m fine (emotionally) with recreational sex, we’ve done play with others no issues just don’t crave variety of partners, it’s the straight swap in particular I don’t get. I do understand different people like different things though.

  • littleblue✨@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    Yes.

    Straight swap, in my experience, makes the menage é trois that much more satisfying for everyone if the 4th spot is a helper position that each person can opt into as needed (rest, refocus, etc.)

    Also, don’t forget that there are many different ways to “participate” in group sex that are not actively genital on genital action. Spectating is a valid position if someone’s into it, and just like ropeplay et al, is great for group fun. 🤙🏼

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      8 months ago

      This is an interesting take on group dynamics that I hadn’t considered before. its like coming at it with a playbook. I can see it now…“OMAHA, OMAHA”…center proceeds to fumble, lol

      • littleblue✨@lemmy.world
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        If you aren’t going into a sec act without the pleasure of another (+/-) in mind, you’re doing it wrong from the jump. But, yeah, I hear you. It’s heartening that this resonates, so good on ya! 🤘🏽

  • oxodoboxo@lemmynsfw.com
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    My wife and I have done it, we did a same room swap, wasn’t really for us. I love seeing my wife with other men, something about seeing what turns her on from an outside perspective is hot. I thought it was so hot infact that I got distracted and didn’t give the other wife as much attention as she wanted, and it made her upset. I also felt weird being with the other guys wife while he was there. Also my wife wasn’t really into having other people watching her.

    We’re a rare couple, we’re more into doing separate room swapping, but it seems like most couples only do same room swapping.

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    8 months ago

    We have not. I’m open to it, but my wife isn’t interested. She’s open to a threesome, but not a swap.

  • Walker @lemmynsfw.com
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    We do this regularly. It’s fun. It’s great to see and hear your lover enjoy herself with someone else. It’s quite beautiful and intense to be intimate with a new person. Different people do things differently, and the variety can teach you new things as well as just be exciting.

  • cocksucker@lemmynsfw.com
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    8 months ago

    ive fucked several girls in front of my spouse. i would do a spouse swap, MF MF or MM FF. hasn’t happened though

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    Not judging or anything. But we both can’t imagine ourselves in it. I cannot imagine juggling all needs and do not hurt any feelings. It feels like that would be something I had to experience during my promiscuous time in life.

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    8 months ago

    I got drunk one night and sexted my friends wife and laid out our intentions. Turns out they have talked about the same thing. Talks of sleepovers and flirting have increased any time we hang out with them. I think it could happen.

    When my wife and I are having sex we’ll sometimes talk about what the experience would be like and what the rules would be. The rules are: consent, condoms and have fun. It’s turned into our dirty talk and takes us both over the edge during sex.