Trying to get more discussion in here and I’m often curious whether people who take part in online kink discussions attend events and such

  • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    9 months ago

    I’m not - we did attend one event, they had a remarkably fantastic DJ, but it seemed insular and not friendly, we did see some rigging that looked like disinterested macrame, some flogging that was interesting, e-stim also interesting but overall just not really good for us, it’s so very much about sex for us personally, and was a surprisingly unsexy scene (this is not a criticism just an observation - if it works for you it works).

    • lazyneet@programming.devEnglish
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      9 months ago

      That sounds great to me! At least you saw it. For me personally, vanilla sex is very difficult to enjoy, so if there’s ever a chance to get whipped, choked, or whatever, I take it. Some cities have sex-positive clubs that do kink events involving sex, but maybe you’re looking for a private party.

      • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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        9 months ago

        Yeah it wasn’t just that, also the cliquishness, just felt very outsidery. There were defined groups of people so unless you came in attached to one of those existing groups, nobody talks to you. We weren’t looking to literally fuck anyone, just expected something hotter I guess? My God I loved that DJ though.