I also know not everybody will be fine and be able to cope better if left alone. I will, but it was a long damn journey to get to where I’m able to say that with confidence. If you’re somebody who needs to be alone but won’t be fine if you are, I see you too.

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Sony’s current cheap models are a lot better than the XM3s. I know that pressure sensation, I’d given up on all noise canceling headphones because I hate it, but tried a pair of (cheap!) Sony WH-CH720N and that sensation is 98% reduced, it only appears a little if there’s a ton of bass noise in the environment. But even then, it’s not nearly as bad as most other (older) NC headphones I’ve tried.

Aka “musicians earplugs” … which can be premade, or if you actually want the best fidelity, custom molded to fit your actual ear canal! Had a gf who was a post-punk musician once, she absolutely swore by her custom pair.

Hi, I would recommend the Sony WH-CH720N as punching way above their weight for a $100 pair.

I am someone who didn’t like noise canceling headphones which I tried before, since older models all seemed to cause a sensation of “pressure” on my eardrums which felt like having dead meat behind saran wrap smushed up against them. The Sony WH-CH720N have about 98% removed that sensation, which means I can actually wear them for more than 10 minutes.

The noise canceling feature isn’t perfect - you can of course still hear some noise - but it’s about as good as the Bose Quiet Comfort 3 pair which cost a LOT more than the Sony.

They feel the same about me when I decline the opportunity to get shitfaced drunk and banter over 17 games of “Mexican train dominoes” for the 59574th time.

The only person I have to babble at has level 2 autism and can only process a finite (and very small) number of words per day before she combusts 😭

when self-hating people who’ve learned a little about genetics and evolution pipe up with “why are we even still in the gene pool” sadposts … this is why. overall, this style of thinking is a net positive to the proliferation of Homo sapiens, and every now and then even a net positive to the people who embody it.

RIP Elijah McClain

I just wanted to say I read everything and you’re not crazy to be wondering what the fuck.

This phenomenon, evoked by Too Much Shit Going On Around Me, is in some sense destroying my life.

I mean, the alternate path I’ve been on because of sensory sensitivity + autistic inertia has taught me a ton of valuable shit over the past half decade, so if I ever manage to get into a better situation I’ll be so much better prepared than I ever was before, now that I understand this stuff… but I’m trading years of my life for the insight, years spent locked in by inertia for a great portion of almost every single day… plus a not-small measure of damage to my health from all the fucking drugs I have to take in order to not go absolutely insane, become completely dysregulated, be constantly highkey suicidal etc in such a scenario.

Also, a tangent, but I really wish there were fewer typos in this paper, this kind of research is utterly critical to getting a better living situation for millions of people on the spectrum, and the typos don’t help that. K, done complaining about my pet peeve.

I realized that I do the ‘tell everyone’ stage because I’m trying to recruit a body double so I’ll stick with the project 😅

In my case if I go weeks on end with no break from human presence, I will start hallucinating muffled conversations and fan-like drones etc at all times when there isn’t sufficiently loud complex noise, and also I’ll see “bugs” constantly in the corner of my vision, like jump scare - there’s a spider on the wall, oh wait no there isn’t type thing, but 50 times a day. also can get lost parsing sensory input in shared spaces, allowing people to sneak up on me (usually impossible due to the 3D hearing which I can never shut off) and give me a jump scare.

Between this and the manufacturer/DEA created “shortages” it’s brutal out there.

pls enjoy a recent research paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32538895/

Thank you for posting something this personal. These communities (as a former reddit user) have been incredibly helpful to me thru stories just like this. If we can get them self-sustaining on Lemmy they will help a lot of others.

Back to topic, I’ve not done an extensive pharmacogenetic test, but I did take one to confirm that I’m a CYP2D6 poor metabolizer, which has a huge effect on function of something like 25% of all drugs in existence! It’s definitely informed my treatment since getting that information.

Edit: haha, speaking of ADHD I left a shorter version of this comment 2 months ago. the more the merrier…

try 25 virtual desktops running 2 browsers, one of which with multiple profiles for various broad topics … my “main” session alone has 75-80 windows at present 😃

edit: installed an extension to find out: in main session, 378 tabs across 84 windows. seems like a low number of tabs per window perhaps, but I organize topics into a window, then related topic-windows into a dedicated browser profile session if they’re long-lived, and windows/sessions are grouped into virtual desktop by top-level topic more or less … so my fediverse/threadiverse session has 35 tabs in 7 windows in only 1 virtual desktop.

edit 2: I theme each browser profile differently to (mostly) tell them apart by eye

This is because most therapists (in my loooooong experience) have absolutely zero understanding of executive dysfunction :|

Not the guy you’re responding to but I made a comment upthread that I found success by developing interlocking habits, or in some cases it’s fair to say rituals rather than habits … little sub-habits that guide you to the main one you want to develop, or briefly reward you when you’ve completed it. Items or processes in your environment which cue you and remind you that the habits you want to do even exist.

For example, 2 sub-components of what finally got me to remember to meditate (or skip, but intentionally 😒) were writing a brief journal entry of my observations after each sit with a piece of chocolate, and having a couple little succulents with a light on a timer by my altar, so that every time I’m in the room during the day the altar area, with a couple plants I need to keep an eye on for their health, is lit up to draw me in if I’m ready.

Doing things this way is very intentional and thus exhausting, and it requires a lot of trial and error to figure out the little sub-habits that all work together and that actually work for you (since some inevitably won’t), and hell as somebody explaining it I’ve only had a couple big successes with it because I often don’t have the energy/brainpower to figure all this out … but man when I can pull it off, it works sooo well.

I’m a huge believer in “prosthetic environments” which I believe is a concept Dr. Russell Barkley came up with, he annoys me a little but as an ADHD research he’s like 85% dead on target about this stuff, and thinks deeply about it.

Good luck!

I’ve been trying to develop this habit for 7 years because I know how good it is for me :(