I remember once working from home using the laptop camera for a 1-1 with my manager.

I had a proper white collar shirt and all. But I wanted to see my other monitor which was partially covered by the laptop. So I bent the lid a bit to see it and my manager says “<name>, are you aware I’m seeing your pajamas?”. And me, half embarazed, half amused “at least I had pajamas!”.

All the possible signals. Really. I’ll give you two of my own experience (or inexperience)

• Teenagers in a school trip. She tells me, do you want to come with me, I forgot my key in the room. “Sure” I say. I proceed to walk with her and wait for her to go to her room while I held the elevator.

• Me in a quite alternative bar. She “why don’t you stay longer, I can take you home after”. Me “I have early class tomorrow”.

Both were drop dead gorgeous (the first one was fairly wealthy)

Those are just two examples. My life is full of them. Apparently I’m more attractive than smart.

Of course, there have been some super direct where I clued in but it was impossible not to.

I’m non-binary and don’t commune with binary choices.

I can be in parallel on Reddit and Lemmy. Eventually I may feel totally comfortable in one of them to ditch the other, or maybe not. Who cares?

Plus there are two sides for users in social media, producer and consumer.

I can be on Insta as a consumer checking what my friends are up to and on pixelfed posting my pictures and sharing the links with my friends.

But we have so many “quotes” from Einstein. It would be fun to go one by one asking if he really said that.

Interestingly enough, it may be women themselves due to societal expectations.

It is legal in Canada. One day me, my partner and a friend (very feminist friend) were at the park in a nice spring sunny day. I removed my T-shirt and laid on the grass. She said something like “I think is should to”. I said " go ahead, why don’t you?" and she said something about feeling uncomfortable because no one else was doing it.

(It wasn’t shyness with us. I had already seen her naked)