Safest and fast - Wireguard. But you need to setup duckdns too.
Safest and easiest - Tailscale. It’s a userland implementation of Wireguard with added stuff to make it stupidly easy to run. But because it’s not a kernel module, it’s slightly slower.
Oh… Look at that…
You use arch BTW
It seems to me, by looking at several of OPs comment that you’re running the full desktop OS, with Gnome on it, and honestly that’s the reason you get the idle CPU and 1.5GB of RAM usage.
Do you want light weight the real answer is, use the server version of it without the UI.
something this advanced there are probably a whole bunch of configuration tips, setup tricks, neat hacks, and huge no-nos to learn the hard way
You’re really overthinking it… Download games, play games, have fun.
Remember to never run anything critical on Windows
I certainly pause and save the game, but then I’m more than happy to leave the Deck in sleep mode to get back to it quickly.
If something goes wrong, just reboot, butt normally it doesn’t