I think cross-posts in general shouldn’t be spammed and should follow the rules of the community you’re cross-posting to. I’d say it’s a good idea to cross-post to (good) communities that don’t get as much attention or are more specialized.

I’m not sure what the best approach to tagging cross-posts from !dickgirl_hentai would be. Ultimately, I think it hinges on whether the term “dickgirl” is offensive or not (maybe it’s context-dependent? People on Baraag and Aethy seem to be okay with terms like “cboy” and “boypussy” for trans shotas). It’s also important to note that “dickgirl” does not necessarily imply trans. Also, it’s not necessarily the case that tagging something is also fetishizing/objectifying it (e.g. in communities that allow porn of more than just women, there are usually gender tags since people might want to filter out gay/male content).

Regarding the name of !dickgirl_hentai, you could go with something like !fem_penis_3d’s name. Outside of that I’m not sure what else you could call it.

Could you also revert the Lemmy default links (mostly the Docs/help links)?

Considering that some of the default Lemmy links have been changed to https://youtu.be/dtomagQSsZg (like the Docs and join-lemmy links at the bottom of the page, the Support Lemmy link, the markdown help link, maybe others), I don’t think it’s a bug.

It’s inline code, which is pink in the theme you’re using (it might be pink in all themes, idk).

Oyakodon should be allowed, and the incest-adjacent stuff should be fine as long as they aren’t the majority of posts.