I’d argue you fucked yourself over. You could have said no to everything except what you wanted them to do.
You seem to be blaming the dealer for talking you into repairs you didn’t need. Or maybe you really did need and have been putting off.
I took a vehicle in for a recall. They tallied up $6000 in repair work they wanted to do. I just thanked them and took the list home with me. The van was only worth $3000 at the time.
Misfiring flashes the CEL because it dumps raw gas into the exhaust and cats which ruins the cats.
I don’t have a good answer for you but I wouldn’t drive the car. They probably let it go because the know it’s going to be a good long time before the parts show up and they don’t want to store the car.
Honda seems to be building quite a big of junk these days.