I’m a sub to my wife. When she hurts me, it gives her a satisfying sense of control. She’s very empathetic and can see my desire and pain, and me fighting through the pain to ask more.

If I had to sum up the goal of BDSM: intimacy.

Just as sharing a sexual experience is intimate, so is sharing a painful one.

Of course, it’s not for everyone and it’s not universal.

I haven’t had a problem with spam or anything, probably ok for now. Is there some benefit to sharing the workload?

Great job. Good show of your knowledge of his body.

The large tube is fully hollow so peeing is awful / impossible. There are versions with a catheter that may be better.

Think about a prince Albert piercing! I put off getting one for years and just got it done last month.

More like we’d do 2 weeks of chastity, sparking our love life and leading to lots of orgasms for her and lots of time making out and teasing. Then, I’d go and orgasm and then lose interest in it all and maybe go back to being uncaged and touching myself. It was a dopamine rush + letdown.

Part of the challenge was that she enjoys having sex with me, but for obvious reasons my stamina is lower during bouts of chastity. What’s worked best for me in this 100+ day stint is:

• During sex, repeat affirmations of my inferiority to her. Out loud or in my head.
• Keep the cage base ring on. It works as a cock ring which makes things better for her and somehow less sensitive for me.
• Only have sex after she has edged me for a good while and my parts are less sensitive than immediately out of the cage.
• If I really can’t handle it and am about to cum, I pull out, put fingers in her, and lick like my life depends on it because I’m in big trouble.

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Traditionally, full orgasms have ended our chastity sessions as they give me a large post nut clarity.

Because of that, my mistress has consistently told me that she regrets when I cum and wished she had ruined it. After I cum, she is notably disappointed and disapproving. I don’t love those feelings, whereas ruined orgasms make her almost giddy. She loves my twitching and suffering and likes commanding me to eat it.

Her enthusiasm is additive and so I also crave the denial of a full orgasm.

When I do cum, it fills me with feelings of failure – that I was too weak to hold back or to accept the ruin, and I apologize. I used to “relapse” and fall out of chastity, but instead lately when I’ve had a rare accidental orgasm, the feelings of guilt have been overwhelming.

I tell her what happened and she tells me that I am pathetic and asks me to cage up again if I truly love her. And so I do…and our current session is 98 days. Longer than our previous record of ~45. The difference is that this time orgasms aren’t ending my subservience, so unclear how long we can last. I did recently get a PA which should make cheating harder once it’s stretched up to size.

TL;DR: All that to say, psychologically, full orgasms suck now. Ruined orgasms bring me pleasure through her.

Aw, cute tiny balls.

So cute! Hope you licked up the mess 🤤

Psychologically, my Dom has made me regret full orgasms. Ruined orgasms make me feel happier, despite the physical suffering. So, a caged ruined orgasm would be about perfect.

I have this cage but find that during erections the friction on top of my dick head gets unbearable. Jealous that you can wear it for hours.

As soon as he started cumming she should have opened her legs and ruined it.

The blonde, but damn both their butts are so cute.

Such cute feet!

My wife is definitely into a little bit of feminization, a lot of domination, a good amount of chastity, but also her own things. She likes my look (a little androgenous) including my facial and body hair, so I need to seek feminization in subtle ways – girly clothing, pierced ears, etc. but she’s definitely into it.

I think every person is going to have their various quirks and preferences and nothing will match porn one to one. However, I feel like my own relationship is better than what I see in porn.

Sissy fetish has some problematic pieces, objectification of women included. I think getting more involved in the queer community could give a broader perspective about what you like about sissification and better integrate it into your life and relationship.

Sorry for the rambling reply, I need coffee!

As long as the cage is smaller than that!

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Get the cage. Make sure not to go too big to start, easiest mistake.

I would recommend a kink3d cobra knock off for around $20 (AliExpress) as a good starting point because they fit well, are light (in plastic), come in black or pink, and include a variety of rings so you can experiment with size. I wear the baby/nub size and it’s very comfy!

I think right is the cutest but middle is so smol.