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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • Yeah. Honestly, 99% of the time my kid is having a fit, it’s because he’s hungry. I never yell either. Never have and probably never will (barring seriously dangerous things that need to immediately stop).

    After a couple months of feeding him when he’s upset, watching him calm down, apologizing if I angered him and then asking him if maybe he was so angry because he was really hungry, now he’ll actually tell me mid-fit that he’s really hungry. Or sleepy, scared, etc. Talking basic needs, not just hunger.

    Honestly I’m really happy. The emotional maturity of a toddler that can recognize that in large part his anger is being hungry it’s pretty cool.






  • So look at the drug war, war on terrorism, money laundering sanctions, international tax evasion measures. The US and EU basically force the world to comply.

    Imagine the EU and US are fully on board and say Australia decides no. What would happen to the Australian economy if they suddenly were barred from trading the dollar and euro. Australia is a big country and would be on the US/EU side. Imagine if Mexico or Croatia tried that. No chance.

    Extreme? We did that to Russia during the Ukraine invasion.

    This isn’t difficult. They just don’t care enough.



  • Demisexual would fit perfectly if “deep emotional connection” were replaced with “the right energy”. I don’t need a deep connection in the traditional sense, but I need a very particular energy which is rare.

    The last person (woman) I had this with could barely understand me when I spoke (different English accents). We danced and I felt a strong connection. Ultimately it’s emotions, but it was like we move and breathe the same. Like our bodies flow together and connect. We only danced and kissed, but I’d rather dance with her than fuck some beautiful person who I didn’t have that with.

    So maybe a deep emotional connection, so long as “emotional” includes a wide variety of emotions.


  • So part of my issue is these norms. As a man I’m supposed to be out conquering, so many men I talk to dismiss my feelings completely. It annoys me, so I end up being friends with women more.

    Plus I can easily get sex if I want. I can walk into a gay/kink/bisexual sex party and get fucked left and right. But the cost-benefit ratio is off. Even at sex clubs where I get some of my best sexual experiences, the amount of pleasure I get simply doesn’t justify the effort. Sex in relationships has typically been worse than in parties/groups.

    And yeah, I’m not distressed about my sexuality. I’m just annoyed with people (mostly men, but some women) who presume to know what I need to be happy (meaning sex).