I was trying to become socially a good person for friends, to become socially favourable towards girls

Those are one and the same thing. Women aren’t some other kind of beast that you have to learn about, they’re just people that you need to unlearn some distinctions about if you ever want to connect with them. Same goes for men.

When I hear another man talk about men being chimps when chasing women, I hear excuses for stereotypical and often violent behavior