I’ve always found it odd when I hear people say this. I’m never quite sure how I’m supposed to take it. I live alone. I have like zero responsibilities outside of work. So in that regard, every single day I do “something nice” for myself. I get to eat whatever I want, watch whatever I want on TV, etc.
One “argument” I’ve heard that this is instead supposed to mean to like exercise or something, but I exercise is very unpleasant to me. I committed to consistent running for over a year and never enjoyed it lol. I feel similarly about all forms of exercise.
I dunno. What am I missing here? Is telling people to do something nice for themselves reserved for people with heavy responsibilities like children and such? Because I don’t understand why people would tell me to do that to myself or how I am supposed to apply that. Existing with high freedom and low responsibilities seems pretty nice to myself so I don’t get it.
Am I just dumb lol?
Yeah, it’s common advice because lots of us need it. But again, doing something nice for yourself isn’t just about pursuing an activity or buying something, there are lots of ways.
For some people, treating yourself looks like exercise and eating well. And that’s because it’s a way of treating yourself in a loving and caring way, and for those people it’s something that makes them feel good about themselves.
For others, it might be repeating self-loving affirmations. Or taking time to meditate. Or making a mug cake. Or going for a walk. It’s whatever makes you feel good about yourself, something that reaffirms your value.
For some of us, it’s really hard to know what those things are. I’m a hard person to gift for, because I don’t really pay attention to the things I want. I don’t neglect my needs, but I’m not really aware of the things that make me feel good about myself, I don’t really think about it.
So maybe spend some time thinking about things that make you feel good about yourself. What kind of things do other people do for you that make you feel valued?