I have been banned from unpopularopinion for exposing person defending genocide and use of human shields by IDF.

One of the users in unpopularopinion thread was complaining about someone calling him a “fascist”

https://feddit.uk/comment/17531487

In response I did paste a screenshot of his comment claiming IDF are not using human shields, it is Hamas who do that:

https://feddit.uk/comment/17529782

… And the mod of unpopularopinion banned me. I can only guess he is a another genocide apologist.

  • Lvxferre [he/him]@mander.xyz
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    You do realise you’re using here the exact same sealion as you did in that thread, right?

    I don’t. I’m genuinely trying but I don’t.

    Given that you claim to not defend the IDF, and I don’t know your “motivations” or “intentions” or whatever¹, I’ll treat you as genuinely confused.

    What's "sealioning", in a nutshell.

    Sealioning is a debate tactic where someone keeps engaging in a debate through things like this:

    • Questions / allegations on matters that are contextually obvious, while showing to expect others to rebuke them. Often through claims of ignorance.
    • Questions / allegations that are completely irrelevant to the topic, but being treated as if they were. Whataboutisms, argumenta ad nauseam, etc.
    • Clearly distorting what others say.
    • Misleading / loaded questions, implicit assumptions, straw men… basically distorting what others say.
    • Insistently claiming that they’re just trying to engage in a meaningful debate, or “just questioning” (JAQing off), etc.
    • etc.

    Ultimately, a sea lion makes the other side shut up or snap out - not through valid argumentation, but by shredding their patience. In both cases the sea lion can claim a victory.

    Now, look at your comments in the linked discussion - because they provide context to this one. And let us pretend that the IDF was indeed committing another war crime than using human shields, i.e. that your “ackshyually” was indeed correct². Here’s what you see:

    • The topic is about the IDF using human shields. The point of such a topic is to spread awareness of the atrocities committed by the IDF.
    • Your top comment is an “ackshyually” about the exact definition of human shield (weak relevance, given the point of the topic).
    • In the same comment you say “which has been Hamas’ strategy from the beginning” - shifting the focus from what the IDF is doing to what Hamas does. (whataboutism).
    • Keeponstalin provides you a definition of the usage of human shields, plus multiple links that show that the usage of human shields is a common IDF strategy.
    • Instead of addressing that definition, you highlight your alleged intentions (“I’m simply questioning…”), and claim that saying the IDF uses human shields “paints a somewhat dishonest picture of the actual reality”. Like, there’s no other way to interpret this excerpt except as you defending the IDF.

    The only reasonable way to explain your behaviour there is sealioning: you shift the focus into semantics and Hamas, while claiming that you’re just asking questions, and not addressing what others said…

    And before you say “but my intentions” - remember, the only person who knows what’s inside your head is yourself¹.

    Now look at this thread. I said that you’re still sealioning because:

    • claim of ignorance: “It’s still unclear to me”
    • distortion of what I said: “Disagreeing on the definition of a term isn’t hypocrisy”. My exact words were “It [your defence of the IDF] does give people good grounds to call you a fascist, so your comment in the other thread is hypocrisy.” So it’s clearly not about the disagreement of the definition, I called it hypocrisy because you claim surprise of being called a fascist³.

    You were sealioning back then, claim ignorance, distort what someone else says…

    It’s not hypocrisy or sealioning Felix was accusing me of.

    I said those things. FelixCress is claiming that you’re a fascist.

    If it’s about me being annoying, pedantic, or whatever - fine, I don’t disagree. But my issue is with claims about me or my beliefs that just aren’t true. And if they are true, I’m sincerely hoping someone would point them out to me.

    It is not about being pedantic or annoying. It’s about how your words are interpreted.

    And, if you’re genuinely not sealioning, a few tips on how to avoid being labelled as one here:

    • Mind the context. Always mind the context. It dictates how your words are interpreted. Specially for more politicised topics, like the ongoing conflicts. A neutral statement (like “it doesn’t fit the definition”) will convey different things based on the post, and those things will not be neutral.
    • I hate doing this but don’t simply say epistemic statements (X is true / X is false) in a heavily politicised topic without a moral statement. Otherwise people will see a moral statement on it. Not just witch hunters but every bloody body.
    • If you’re unsure on what someone else said, don’t say stuff like “I don’t understand”, “I’m confused”, “I’m not sure”. Instead, ask specific questions on what they mean. (Reason: most Lemmy users are former Reddit users, and in Reddit this crap is a red flag for sealioning. And ooooh boy sealioning in Reddit is bread and butter.)
    • If there are multiple possible interpretations to what someone else said, and you can’t handle all of them, always pick the most reasonable one.

    NOTES:

    1. Nobody knows what’s inside someone else’s head, nor we [people in general] should pretend we do.
    2. It is not correct, but for the sake of this discussion, the distinction between the IDF committing one or another specific war crime doesn’t matter.
    3. Even if you are not a fascist you most likely know where that claim comes from. That’s hypocrisy.
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      Ackshyually

      Fair enough. I’ve been a smart-ass my whole life, so I’m not going to argue against that.

      Whataboutism

      No issues with that either. That doesn’t exactly refute my point, however.

      Sealioning

      This I don’t agree with, and your definition of it seems somewhat strange - especially the part about distorting what others say, which I don’t admit to either.

      Sealioning is a type of trolling or harassment that consists of pursuing people with relentless requests for evidence, often tangential or previously addressed, while maintaining a pretense of civility and sincerity (“I’m just trying to have a debate”), and feigning ignorance of the subject matter. - Wikipedia

      Saying “I don’t understand” isn’t sealioning if I genuinely don’t understand. If someone doesn’t like what I’m saying, I don’t engage with vague accusations - I ask them to be more specific so I can respond to what they’re actually saying, not what I imagine they’re saying.

      Instead of addressing that definition, you highlight your alleged intentions (“I’m simply questioning…”), and claim that saying the IDF uses human shields “paints a somewhat dishonest picture of the actual reality”. Like, there’s no other way to interpret this excerpt except as you defending the IDF.

      I’ve only claimed that “human shield” doesn’t fit the definition in this specific example, but when people provided examples of other cases, I didn’t claim they weren’t true. I condemn the IDF’s use of human shields just as harshly as I do when Hamas uses them.

      To me, it seems hypocritical when people criticize one side for something the other side is demonstrably worse at - but I’ll grant you that, in this specific case, I’m assuming bad faith when I really can’t know anyone’s intentions or underlying motives any more than they can know mine.

      Also, saying that I “defend the IDF” is a pretty vague claim. Yes, there are more things I might defend the IDF for than Hamas - but that doesn’t mean I blanket-approve everything they do. I don’t defend the use of human shields, and I don’t defend genocide. You may argue that I’m “effectively” doing so, but since that’s not my intention, I don’t accept that accusation. I could just as easily flip that around and say people here are defending Hamas - which would equally misrepresent their views in most cases.

      Now, as you’ve probably noticed, I tend to be a bit provocative in the way I comment - that’s intentional. Like trolls, I am baiting for a reaction. The difference is that: 1. I actually believe what I’m saying. 2. I don’t act in bad faith (or at least not with bad intentions). 3. Getting a reaction isn’t my end goal - I use it as a tactic to get people to engage with me. I also intentionally don’t tend to caveat my points because othewise my every response would just be a list of what I’m not meaning/saying.

      I still stand firm that Felix has made multiple false accusations against me and has consistently behaved in extremely bad faith from the very beginning. It’s pretty clear to me that this all started when he asked for examples of extremism on Lemmy, and one of the multiple examples I provided was of someone advocating for the abolition of Israel - something he clearly had a strong emotional reaction to. That reaction seemed to prompt him to dig through my post history, looking for anything to support the assumptions he had already made about me.

      At no point did it feel like it was about the actual content of my claims - it was a personal smear campaign, not an argument. I think that compairing the lenght of our moderation histories is quite revealing.

      Finally, as a side note - I hate responding to multiple points like this in one post, but I don’t see any other way to address everything you brought up. If you still want to continue the conversation, I’d much rather focus on one or two specific claims you feel most strongly about. But if not, I just want to thank you for taking the time to write a thoughtful response - and above all, for your civility. Social media needs more people like you.

      • Lvxferre [he/him]@mander.xyz
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        If you still want to continue the conversation, I’d much rather focus on one or two specific claims you feel most strongly about.

        Then I’ll focus specifically on sealioning. This instance is heavily politicised (and that’s good), so plenty people here can discuss IDF, Hamas, the ongoing Nakba etc. better than I do.

        This [sealioning] I don’t agree with, and your definition of it seems somewhat strange - especially the part about distorting what others say

        Those bullet points are just examples of sea lion behaviour. The common elements between all of them is that 1) they aren’t valid argumentation, and 2) they force the “sealioned” to provide pointless explanations, until they lose their patience; and distorting what others say is a way to do it.

        which I don’t admit to either.

        You might have done it either “accidentally” or “on purpose”, but your claim does distort what I said. Because, again, it is not about disagreeing on definitions; it’s that it was obvious why people were calling you fascist, even if your comment shows bewilderment about it.

        Sealioning is a type of trolling or harassment that consists of pursuing people with relentless requests for evidence, often tangential or previously addressed, while maintaining a pretense of civility and sincerity (“I’m just trying to have a debate”), and feigning ignorance of the subject matter. - Wikipedia

        Wikipedia itself lists multiple definitions. The core is the same, and shared with the definition I’ve provided.

        Saying “I don’t understand” isn’t sealioning if I genuinely don’t understand.

        It’s a red flag, you know? On itself it might not be enough to say “this is a sealion with 100% chance” but, together with other red flags, you can pretty much spot a sealion with damn good accuracy.

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          Are you referring to your accusation of hypocrisy and me then talking about the definition of the term “human shield” - even though that’s not what you meant? Because if so, that wasn’t me intentionally misrepresenting what you said, but rather me genuinely not understanding what I was being accused of and trying to respond anyway, hoping that somewhere in my word salad you might find an answer to it.

          What I could’ve done instead was keep asking you to be more specific - but then that could’ve just been interpreted as more sealioning (i.e., demanding pointless explanations). Was that the only example of me doing this, or were there others? I honestly struggle to give you a broad explanation here, but I can definitely explain my reasoning behind individual replies I’ve made to people in these threads.

          As for people calling me a fascist - like I said earlier, that had nothing to do with what I’ve said about the Israeli–Palestinian conflict. I’m not sure anyone called me a fascist for that - not even Felix, at least not explicitly. He was just pointing out what he saw as the absurdity of me wondering why people call me that, while (in his view) I was expressing clearly fascist views.

          The implicit accusations of fascism came in a thread I made a while back where I was asking about a heavily moderated discussion community - one where mean-spirited, hostile replies wouldn’t be tolerated. People interpreted that as me advocating for “free speech absolutism,” as if I wanted a space like Twitter where anything goes and people get banned for pushing back. But that clearly wasn’t what I was asking for.

          That thread got a lot of people suspicious about my motives, asking what kind of topics I’d want to discuss there, and claiming that a space like that would inevitably become a breeding ground for fascism and pedofilia. So it’s not that people directly called me a fascist - but in my view, it was heavily implied in how I was treated.