It’s not the ideas themselves that are the issue, it’s the idea that a person making the suggestion will fix you with such basic suggestions. Alarms? Oh, I hadn’t heard of those, and now I’m cured! Time tracking software? I had not thought of that! Suppose I can cancel my therapy appointments.
I think it’s usually more of a suggestion of a place to start. Alarms for example are really good. Especially if you issue is not being able to remember things. There is no one size fits all solution.
Right, my point is that the unhelpful bit is assuming you can solve it with one suggestion. “Just set an alarm” is condescending and frustrating to receive as advice. I know about alarms, and even if I had anticipated needing a reminder, I might have simply forgotten to set one. Or maybe I had an alarm, but missed it because I was distracted by something else going on.
I’m not sure they consider it solving your problem but throwing your hands in the air and giving up is not a solution. And there really is no magic bullet. Even with medication you will need to take steps to self adjust your own behavior, it’s unavoidable and hard.
You may miss alarms it’s part of the process of making the habit. You may forget, but aiming for a goal of starting that habit is the point.
It’s not the ideas themselves that are the issue, it’s the idea that a person making the suggestion will fix you with such basic suggestions. Alarms? Oh, I hadn’t heard of those, and now I’m cured! Time tracking software? I had not thought of that! Suppose I can cancel my therapy appointments.
I think it’s usually more of a suggestion of a place to start. Alarms for example are really good. Especially if you issue is not being able to remember things. There is no one size fits all solution.
Right, my point is that the unhelpful bit is assuming you can solve it with one suggestion. “Just set an alarm” is condescending and frustrating to receive as advice. I know about alarms, and even if I had anticipated needing a reminder, I might have simply forgotten to set one. Or maybe I had an alarm, but missed it because I was distracted by something else going on.
I’m not sure they consider it solving your problem but throwing your hands in the air and giving up is not a solution. And there really is no magic bullet. Even with medication you will need to take steps to self adjust your own behavior, it’s unavoidable and hard.
You may miss alarms it’s part of the process of making the habit. You may forget, but aiming for a goal of starting that habit is the point.
Why would you assume that they are giving up just because they didn’t take your advice?