The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/kok0ra0ra on 2025-02-22 10:58:29.

My father recently had to replace my bedroom door because the wind slammed it shut and trapped me in my room, leading to my dad breaking the door in half to open it. While picking out a door for me, he also decided to get all the doors in the house remade and picked out an interesting colour and design. I’m not opposed to how the door looks because I can just redecorate my room again.

Now the main issue comes when my dad also tells me and my mom that he wants to get wallpaper for the living room. First off, we live in a very humid country and I heard that wallpaper could get damaged or mold could grow behind it. I was against the idea but my dad told me it’s his money and he could “do what he wants with it”. So, I had no say in them wanting wallpaper.

Last week, I was in my room playing online games with my headphones on when my mom came in my room to hand me a folder with all the wallpaper choices. I was in a competitive match, so I told her I would look after the game and to leave it on my bed for me to browse through later. She got upset because she wanted me to pause the game there and then look through the choices with her before she went to work. I could hear her slam the door before she left the house. I thought nothing of it because I had faith that my parents would choose something nice to match the white tile floor we have.

I was so wrong. My dad showed me the wallpaper choice today. It had a dark maple wood print and I thought my dad was just kidding, so I laughed at it and told them it’s a silly joke. Then, my mom told me that it’s the design she chose and it’s what she thinks is nice. She told me that I should’ve gotten off the game to pick it out with her if I hated the wallpaper that much. I tried explaining to her that wood print wallpaper looks really stupid when we have smooth white tiles for our flooring. If anything, it clashes with the main decor of our living room since we have dark wood furniture (desk, sofa, coffee table) and we have three dark brown keris hanging on the walls. It just looks super ugly and our relatives would also laugh when Eid comes around. My mom told me that I was being overly rude and that my word choice hurt her feelings. My dad agrees with her too. I was so upset I just left the conversation to go to my room.

It’s been about an hour since then and I kinda feel bad about it because my mom rarely gets to make major decisions for the house since that’s been my dad’s job since they were married. At the same time, the thought of having to look at such wallpaper whenever I come home feels so overstimulating.

I could be an asshole here for two reasons: for using harsh words to express how much I dislike the wallpaper, and for not letting my mom make such a major choice concerning our home.

So, AITA?

EDIT 1: I know I am in the wrong, and I will wait for my mom to come home so I can sit her down and apologise to her. She’s currently out with my dad.

To the people saying that I am not entitled to any of the choices made in our house- do understand that I have been paying for utilities, paying for my mom’s needs, and taking turns with my dad to give her pocket money because she can’t work as much as she used to before. I’ve been doing this since I started working.

And to address the broken door in the first place- my parents spoilt my door in the past like yearsssss ago. I was fine with a broken door because the doorknob still worked. until it didn’t when the wind slammed my door shut and it locked itself 😭 i needed to pee okay so my dad had to break it in half