The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Expensive-Culture433 on 2025-02-22 08:39:33.

Hi everyone!

To give a little context, my college roommate is getting married out of the country at an all inclusive tropical resort in Sept 2025 and I am a bridesmaid. I know, it sounds bad. But everything in me feels nothing but anxiety and dread about attending this wedding ALONE. She is not giving plus ones to anyone unless she personally knows the significant other and I am unfortunately single.

She asked me to be her bridesmaid in April of 2024 with the intent of the wedding being in Tennessee. However, she changed it to a destination wedding in June. I know it’s now 2025 but as I was looking to plan and book hotels and flights, it’s going to cost me between $2-3000. I mentioned I was stressed about money and she suggested sharing a room with one of her other single friends who I have never met to split the cost. But I’m 26 and don’t want to necessarily share a room for 4 nights with a stranger.

I am also new to traveling out of the country, and new to traveling alone. Traveling to a country I have never been to by myself just freaks me out.

I thought about so many ways to fix this. I even invited my friends who aren’t invited to the wedding but who would want to enjoy an all inclusive resort while I’m attending wedding festivities… all declined. I asked my mom (sounds sad but even she declined as she is terrified of planes). I don’t have a sister or a boyfriend who I can forced to tag along. I only know one other person going to this wedding. Hoping she would share a room with me but she is not sure she can even go.

This sounds even worse but I have multiple weddings this year, most I am a bridesmaid in as well. But this one of the only one that I am even questioning. Don’t want her to think I am picking my other friends over her…

Now I feel like I’m rambling but this is me and my anxiety keeping me awake at 3 AM…. So please let me know, am I the asshole to cancel now? Am I being dramatic about the whole thing?