The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/mcscrubbinbutts on 2025-02-22 06:19:01.

So I’m (27F) planning on going out for a few hours the evening of March 4th. I have 4 children, I asked my roommate if he would be okay with watching them. I’d be putting my younger two to bed before I leave that night and my older two are self sufficient so he’d be just making sure everyone is safe for a few hours. Here’s where I may be the asshole. He wants me to pay him $20 an hour to watch them. He doesn’t pay any rent, utilities, uses my car daily and just overall doesn’t contribute to living expenses. Now he is a bit upset that I’m going to an event that he “wants us to go to together.” But as i said two of my kids will be in bed and the other two would be not long after. So for most of the night he’d be hanging out while the kids are sleeping. AITA for not wanting to pay him?

Edit to add:

My roomate moved in with me in December. He moved in specifically to help me with my kids since my husband passed a way a few months prior. I did tell him not to worry about any rent until he was able to find a job. He has confessed he has feelings for me, but we talked about it and he is aware that I am not interested and he has respected my boundaries on that.

Also, some have asked if we have slept together or been romantic. No, we have not, nor will we be. And yes he is aware of that.

I spoke with him just a few moments ago, he is planning to move out in the coming weeks. He did admit it was upsetting as this didn’t go the way he had hoped. Thanks everyone for the input and help