The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Tricky-Office922 on 2025-02-22 02:19:14.

so i’m 21 and ill be graduating from college this may. after that i am going to be moving across the country to live with my girlfriend, it will be 2 years of being together at that point (practically 8 in lesbian years). i am super excited about it as i think that everything will be great, i love her she loves me we’ve spent plenty of time together so i know things will be perfectly fine living together. we are long distance so i am going to her, there’s many reasons as to why this is better than her coming to me. but my mom hates this idea, she thinks that ill become unmotivated and just throw away everything ive worked for (college pretty much) all because my girlfriends parents dont really work. she thinks that since they’re “unmotivated” that i will be too. but that’s not true ive already started applying to grad school online and am going to look for a job relatively related to the field i want to go into. she just has to trust me that i will be good. it’s just hard because i want them to be happy for me, i know its hard to have your kid move out, especially as far as i will be but im gonna come back. it’ll just be like im still at college yk? but she’s making me feel so guilty about it. i just can’t live at home anymore, on breaks from school im always so miserable because i feel like i have no independence, i don’t feel like i can be myself, i don’t even have my own room. so idk am i the asshole? i feel like im not but i just need some input on this