• Cowbee [he/they]@lemmy.mlOP
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    11 hours ago

    Submission is indeed the point of the insult. When going into a conversation with the intent to insult based on subservience, the manner you present it determines the source of the insult facor. The message “you are submissive” isn’t insulting by itself, so the necessity is to twist it in a manner that hurts. Sexuality is, in its modern form, pretty impossible to detangle from notions of shame brought out by homophobia and patriarchy, hence why I am against it wholecloth.

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      11 hours ago

      That’s fair. I appreciate you taking the time to explain your perspective in good faith. I’ll keep this in mind when referencing submission from now on.

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              10 hours ago

              I meant we have a lot of people to educate. I’m pretty sure this isn’t common knowledge, at least for the 6.8 billion heterosexuals.

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                  10 hours ago

                  Just to be clear, they’re not actually being sincere. They’re even back to defending homophobia elsewhere.

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                    10 hours ago

                    What are you talking about? I am completely sincere. Read the whole thread. I didn’t understand Cowbee’s perspective, and challenged it. It took a while, but I now understand the position. I’m going to make a conscious effort to remove sexuality from my submissive analogies based on Cowbee’s insight. Don’t minimize that. This is how people learn.