The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Livesforweekend on 2024-12-23 02:40:56.

AITA for allowing my 22 (F) and 24 (F) daughters to yell out their grandmother? My kids maternal grandfather (my father) is declining rapidly with dementia. Christmas is right around the corner and making plans has been a last-minute thing due to figuring out whether maternal grandparents would be able to host Christmas. In the previous 25 years, we have worked around the schedule of the paternal grandparents and sister-in-law. This is the first year that we informed mother-in-law that we would be going to my parents on Christmas Day. The previous years, mother-in-law has dictated, we come over Christmas Eve or Christmas Day to her house. My husband call my mother-in-law on speaker phone, she proceeded to yell on the phone that they always had to plan the holidays around us and that we are always an inconvenience. My daughters overheard what my mother-in-law said, and proceeded to get very upset. When my husband tried to explain to his mother that his father-in-law has limited time, his mother responded with “we’re all dying”! This cause an immediate reaction from both my daughters where they yelled out hurtful things that my mother-in-law took offense to. No, my in-laws did not have plans yet. in actuality, they have spent the last week moving into a new house. Now my oldest daughter wants to cut off paternal grandparents. My husband thinks my children and I are overreacting for getting upset. My oldest daughter just wants her father to say “yes, what grandma said was wrong and your feelings are valid”. But of course, he did not say that. Instead he told her to shout the “F” up. This causing an even fight within our immediate family. Now my daughters and I aren’t speaking to my husband, and they do not want to spend Christmas with their paternal grandparents. And my husband says this is all my fault. Yes, my husband triggered my adult daughter’s ADHD rage. If you don’t know what that is look it up it’s a real thing.