The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Aleisha3007 on 2024-12-23 00:35:00.

I am Female and I am 16. Close to 17. My mother had me when she was 17, and I’ve never had my birth dad in my life for the whole 16 nearly 17 years of my life ever since I can remember it’s been my step dad. For personal reasons I’ll call him mark. His been my only ideal father figure in my life and I have called him dad for 15 and half years. I will continue to call him dad as me and him have a good father daughter relationship even after him and my mum had my half brother. He made sure I didn’t feel left out in the family. But… marks mother and sister have always made me feel like an outsider. I know I will be an outsider to them to begin with but with Mark being my step dad for 15 and half years I thought they’d count me as family. But they haven’t they’ve gone from bodyshaming me to not even bothering to get me a christmas or birthday card or gift, but will get them for my half brother and step dad and mum. Around this time of year is when my step dad’s mum does a christmas dinner and gift exchange and I did go even when I knew they’d make me watch everyone open gifts and cards etc and they all joked about it. But now I’m older I think they do it because I am not blood. But for around 4 months I’ve been missing family gatherings and BBQ’s because I’m not going to go and get disrespected and insulted for either eating or being on my phone or being too happy or helping out. And they thought I was being a ungrateful teen until they invited me, my step dad, half brother and mother to her christmas gift and dinner exchange thing and I said I wasn’t going and she asked step dad to pass the phone to me and I put her on speaker so my mother and step dad could hear what she was saying to me and she insulted me straight up saying something about my weight with the lines ‘your most likely going to eat everything’ when she said that something inside snapped and I kind of went off on her saying the lines of: " why the hell are you commenting on my weight when you’re 10 times the size of me. Why you making me feel like I don’t belong when I’m around you. You treat me like I’m a nobody so the reason I don’t want to come is because you dont like the idea about mark bringing me up like his own daughter when I’m a strangers child. Do your self a favour and don’t talk to me unless you grow up" I hung up and passed the phone and my mother was laughing as she went through similar of what I have but it was only for the fact she kept me when my birth dad didn’t want me. And my step dad was surprised but he knew I was right and he said I wouldn’t have to apologise. I do understand I shouldn’t have said that in that way but I was done with taking their poop for so many years I just couldn’t take it anymore. I’ve cut full contact and have been staying at my aunts (mother’s younger sister) as they’ve been going to my step dad’s and mothers house to talk to me to make me apologise but I haven’t been there. Am I wrong?