Years ago I read a reddit thread saying you shouldn’t pursue friendships or relationships at your workplace. Then I again see all over the places over the internet that friendships don’t happen a lot after you become working adult and that they’re struggling make new friends. My question is If you don’t purse friendships, how would those happen?

Want to know about the thoughts of people over here.

  • xmunk@sh.itjust.works
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    27 days ago

    It unhealthy to seek to establish relationships at work because you or the other person may suddenly be forced to leave. You should have a support network outside of your employer.

    That all said, you spend most of your waking hours at work so it’s likely you will form friendships and you should celebrate those and try to shift them outside of the workplace to preserve them if employment statuses suddenly change.

    The only actual disadvantage of work friends is that those strong relationships can keep you in a position that isn’t healthy for you and it makes it more difficult to come to the decision to leave for greener pastures.

    The only thing I consider verboten is dating at work. Don’t date some from work - never. NEVER.

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      26 days ago

      It’s fine to date someone at work, as long as you don’t care if you stay employed there. All the possible negatives of a work relationship can be mitigated by leaving the job.

      If you absolutely need that job, then no, it’s a bad idea.

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        26 days ago

        It may be fine for you - but when you date someone at work, you run the possibility of making it awful for everyone around you.

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          26 days ago

          That’s just “welcome to humans.” People can be awful for all sorts of reasons.