This graph shows us a couple interesting things.
- Marriage rates are falling. Pretty drastically.
- After thirty the chances of ever getting married really start to drop. You could say that men are not interested in marrying women after 30.
This graph shows us a couple interesting things.
Anecdotal but me and my partner have been together 10 years and still don’t see any benefit to getting married, despite strong family pressure to do so.
Mainly because it’s too dang expensive. Like we just have $10k lying around were dying to blow, we barely have enough money to cover basic expenses.
There are very strong legal, financial, and practical reasons to get married. Married couples have different rights than unmarried, tax burden is less, and insurance rates can also be less. Also you don’t need a ceremony to get married, you can just go to the courthouse and pay like $100 or something. And if you do “need” a ceremony you can do a potluck in someone’s backyard. You do what you want, but if you are already planning to spend your lives together getting a marriage certificate shouldn’t be a big obstacle.
Yeah I used to be in the “it’s more romantic to not be married” boat but good luck when you have any sort of medical emergency
Power of attorney and a living will pretty much covers everything
Power of attorney grants a significant amount more control over you than marriage does. There is a reason married people will sometimes also specify their spouse as POA.
You also lose out on things like social security, shared health insurance, property rights, etc. You’re gonna have a hot mess on your hands if you buy a house together while not being married and then break up.
Sure, you can pay a lawyer a bunch of money to create a bunch of contracts around your relationship. You can also pay a lawyer a bunch of money to undo all of those legal contracts you signed when you break up. For example, the average cost of power of attorney alone is $300. Or you could pay <$100 for a marriage license and have everything packaged together that already has a tride and true method of untangling yourself if you choose to separate, divorce.
Believe me I have considered that too and it’s just a shittier version of marriage that costs more money.
Not trying to convince anyone they need to get married, but do your research into what your options actually accomplish and if it meets your requirements.