Does anyone feel like they’re missing social cues that neurotypical people understand without being taught? I’m missing out on career opportunities because of it. Does any type of guide/rulebook exist to effectively mask?
The book “What Does Everybody Else Know That I Don’t?” may be what you’re looking for.
This is the one I’ve found most helpful, especially the last chapter:
http://www.afieldguidetoearthlings.com
I don’t know if it helped me mask better, but it made neurotypical behavior seem less confusing and more predictable.
Step 1: Read How to make friends and influence people. Step 2: Cry, bc half the book is “listen and pay attention”
That’s an interesting question.
Most guides I’ve seen focus on helping us learn our masks and how to not use them.
The part I find the most difficult is when NT say not the ‘truth/fact because it is ‘understood’ to be something ‘no one’ talks about directly. Indirect context is very difficult.
That being said - one of my masks is being overly gregarious and because I don’t filter the above - people tend to think I like going ‘deep’ in relationships ‘fast’.
