I have a really bad habit of getting into relationships with people ,who are nice at first then just stop caring . I listen to peoples feelings and am a very honest and open person . I know when to stop speaking and for some reason I don’t know why I could work and also cook the next days meals the night before on my workdays and clean the mess I made while still cleaning my partners mess when I get home and it would never be enough . on my days off I dont have a pleasing people issue I just like lots of tasks it makes me happy and I still always have time for myself and my partner of course. I give my partner space and listen to their feelings as well as just being there for them . What am I doing wrong? I always just say if you need something or want something to be different just tell me and I can make it work if my partner says they want tondo something like helo cook or work or anything else I’m cool with it . I’m an easy to please respectful person I hold doors and have manners. I don’t know I guess I just want some advice on what I should do after I heal from my breakup? I just am gonna take some time to myself and reflect and do some self improvement . Thanks,

  • AverySalsedo021@lemmy.worldOP
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    4 months ago

    I’m sorry for being vague what 8 mean by syop caring is they just ignore me altogether and refuse to express their feelings and they tend to become really distant , I understand that I’m also at fault for being old school about stuff . Its almost like they always have better things to do and end of just leaving without any explanation or signs other than just distancing themselves, I don’t get it but I’m also I’m my 20’s so I have a lot to learn cause I’m young still If you know what I mean .

    • you_are_dust@lemm.ee
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      4 months ago

      Are you dating about your same age? Maybe it’s a maturity thing and you’re choosing people that just aren’t interested in relationships that require effort. You need to find someone that values the same things as you in a relationship and maybe you’re just missing the mark because the people in your dating pool aren’t there yet.