I am planning on having children in the next 10 years (not that I care about the financial burden). When I thought about this I decided to make up some advice:
“Spare the rod literally but not metaphorically.”
Basically yes, corporal punishment is too cruel, you still need to discipline the child in other ways. How can this be executed? Life lessons are my pitch.
I feel like it would be better to explain why too much time on tech is bad and encourage them to spend their time doing physical things or reading rather than acting like they “don’t deserve” it.
Which is the point of me not giving them gadgets until they’re 14 and regular trips around the neighborhood (on foot) to begin with.
i with queer on this one, u should keep then from smartphones and similar due to it is not a reward for good behavior, it is a sedative to keep your child under control, and that is bad parenting, specially with how internet works now with shorts videos, content farm sewage, my nephew watches this i’m horrified with what i’ve seen.
ofc, today we can’t shut someone off completely off screens nor play the reactinary macho that started to hunt dear at the age of 3, u can let him watch cartoons, movies or play video games, on tv ofc and for a limited time per day, consume stuff that is mind engaging instead of dopamin bombs we have on internet. and depending turns it into a bonding activity, like watch a movie together, play video games, discuss the movie after and so on.
but as queer said, focus primarily on physical stuff, going outside, specially with other children, estimule the habit of reading since a early age, it will be helpful in life.
Same. I know some places in my area that are worth visiting every once in a while and some I am considering going to. I also saw some pretty good childrens toys made of wood that look like they can last a lifetime and spark some memories of mine so why not.
And personally even if they turn 14 I am not letting them have the abomination known as TikTok (just Tiktok) until they are at least 17 and even then I don’t want to hear ear-destroying Tiktok audio at the dinner table.
Speaking of “why spend time irl” my reasoning would be “Because one day, you will have to focus on the real world and you will have less time on the iPad so it’s better to prepare for thst day while you’re still little.”
“You’ll have to be a miserable people one day so don’t get used to freedom.” That’s exactly why I don’t want to be on my phone.
What I mean is “reading and drawing and exploring outside and playing games are much more fun than whatever fake stimulation you get from a screen.”