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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Least_Jello_7438 on 2023-07-12 00:00:41.

My sister(33) and I(35) have a strained relationship. When my sister was 17 she got in some trouble at home. She misbehaved and got punished. To avoid her punishment she blackmailed me. She was the only person who knew at the time that I was gay and used it to pressure me to help her sneak out or convince my parents to let her go out with me. After 1 year I was fed up and moved out and told my parents and other siblings. My family is really supportive and now I think it was stupid to be scared because there was no reason.

Since then I always told my sister stuff last(good and bad) because I just didn’t trust her. 15 years later and I still don’t really talk to her about too personal stuff. My beautiful wife and I hosted a bbq last week. Throughout the dinner my wife and I told all the guests that we were going to adopt. My close family knew and when my sister realized she got mad. She screamed about how I hurt her feelings. I got fed up and told her that if she didn’t blackmail me when I was younger I would now tell her more.

My family who didn’t knew about it is now mad at my sister but my brother and some friends believe I am TA because I shouldn’t use something that happened so long ago as a cover up for not telling her important stuff about my live.