I am thinking of the mindset of wanting to hook up with as many people as possible not taking into consideration other people ‘s feelings or who might get hurt in by the process, which objectifies other individuals. That is an individualistic thought process, right?

Edit: I meant commodification in the sense of online dating apps, escort services, only fans, porn, prostitution and patriarchy. This trickles to the culture due to base and superstructure, and it is adopted by individualism.

  • mayo_cider [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    103·
    9 months ago

    Why do you feel like hooking up means not taking into consideration other people’s feelings or who might get hurt in the process?

    Every time I’ve hooked up there was either a spoken or implicitly obvious unspoken understanding of the situation, e.g. the other person was in an open relationship

    The mindset to hook up with as many people as possible just for the sake of bodycount could/would be toxic, but that’s rarely the situation, people just enjoy casual sex

    The problems begin where communication ends (or expectations outgrow the communication, but that’s on the expectee)

    • General@lemmygrad.mlOP
      31·
      9 months ago

      The act of hooking up reduces other people to sex objects to satisfy’s one needs. One is not trying to make a connection with other humans by hooking up or trying to make a community by hooking up. One is only trying to get rid of sexual urges and seeing other individuals as a medium for that. As another comment mentioned that is atomization and individualistic.

      • usa_suxxx [they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
        41·
        9 months ago

        The act of hooking up reduces other people to sex objects to satisfy’s one needs.

        One is only trying to get rid of sexual urges and seeing other individuals as a medium for that.

        I mean. It kind of feels like you’re trying to invalidate the feeling of being desired as something that is valid. In the proper context, aka consent, being desired by another person is actually fun.

        One is not trying to make a connection with other humans by hooking up or trying to make a community by hooking up.

        As another comment mentioned that is atomization and individualistic.

        I’m not surprised to see this. It’s also something I encountered in real life with someone. I just think it’s a weird hangup. Like, very short term relationships are still relationships with obligations. I bought a homeless person some food on the street. I did not owe that homeless person anything but I had compassion and care for that person. Same thing for a hookup. Just because it’s just sex doesn’t mean I’m going treat them as disposable. I think it is itself individualistic to think as something that is short term as disposable and not something that still requires care and compassion.