What kind of mental illness is it when I avoid with a passion all my messages and notifications across every app and website, I put letters marked “URGENT” in a giant pile and refuse to open them, my phone recieving a call makes me hideously upset, I have a hundred small things I need to do that would all take 5-60 minutes and yet I avoid all of them, I miss people and I crave socializing and yet every opportunity that presents itself to me feels like some terrible dread, I agonize for weeks, months, years over a message I never got back to and then send some long winded apology, re-opening contact with an old friend, only to sharply ghost them and repeat the process for another 1-5 years.

WHY THE FUCK DO I DO THIS

  • ComradeSalad@lemmygrad.ml
    181·
    9 months ago

    Yeah, sounds like adhd. Please get checked out comrade. It is very easy and the help will change your life.

    Also only a trained psychiatrist can answer this question for you, don’t rely on the internet.

    • KiG V2@lemmygrad.mlOP
      4·
      9 months ago

      Nuuu bububut lemmo comrades are my psychiatrist (please prescribe me xanax o comrade of mine i can be trusted w maximum script pllsssss)

  • Maoo [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    14·
    9 months ago

    Anxiety and avoidance. Could be good to talk to a nice therapist about this. It’s usually very helpful and they can at least give (or not) a diagnosis!

  • Lorraine [he/him]@lemmygrad.ml
    12·
    9 months ago

    Yeouch, that is awfully relatable. For reference, I’m autistic but stuff like this can easily intersect with a lot of different things or suggest a mixture of illnesses/conditions. As PaX and Vaggumon have mentioned, your case seems to have hints (??? like food like hints of lemon, idk how to phrase) of what someone with ADHD or social anxiety would experience, it helps if you examine what the source of your behavioural patterns could be.

    In the case of my autism, I have an aversion to socializing at times because I have issues of expressing myself in a comprehensible way and get tired of trying at times. I can’t understand phone calls due to processing issues, too. Differs from autist to autist though, so ymmv (hope this is the right phrase).

    In the case of social anxiety, your behaviour would likely have an aspect of fearing judgement to it, fear of messing up, like being afraid of using the wrong words or sounding weird when calling.

    I don’t know about ADHD but I imagine executive dyfunction plays a role in this? As in, you feel compelled to do a thing but your brain can’t seem to divert its focus to actually do the task

    So, in short, depends on how your behaviour came to be (sorry if this isn’t helpful)

    Edit: I took a bit of time writing this, and others have added onto this, mentioning avoidance coping and avoidant anxiety. Evidently, there are a lot of groups of origins/reasons (???) for certain behaviours, ranging form defense mechanisms to certain brain wirings, whether you’re born with them or have adapted them later. Definitely seek out a professional if you can!!!

  • KiG V2@lemmygrad.mlOP
    31·
    9 months ago

    Thank you everybody for your thoughts, someone said I might have ADHD in high school but instead of seriously considering it, I researched it to purposefully mimic it and recite it and skew tests so I could just get drugs to abuse. Never heard much of avoidance this or that but I’ll try to look into it!

    • ComradeSalad@lemmygrad.ml
      22·
      9 months ago

      But there are no tests for adhd? They literally just ask you if you suffer from a list of symptoms, then they look at family history, and then they’ll discus your life and where things are prickly for you.

      Also, if you researched it much you would know that the key and largest symptom is almost always executive dysfunction and its various forms. That’s one of the most insidious symptoms.