• ozebb@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    Obviously it’s not for everyone, but I had this conversation with my parents after telling them I planned not to have children and it was… Fine? Kind of a bonding moment, even, we mostly just laughed about it.

    Not every parent/child relationship trends this way, but for some of us there’s a point in adulthood where you just become friends with your parents, and the parent/child roles sort of fall away. If everybody’s mature and secure enough to handle it, talk about whatever the hell you want to.

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      11 months ago

      I am quite certain that you are a skilled enough communicator to not say

      If I had to redo my life, that’s what I’d do.

      Which is directly wishing your children were never born, and is a fundamentally different conversation from “By all means, opt not to have children - our financial lives would look quite different if we did not.”

      As with most things, how you say it matters as much or more than what you’re saying.

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        11 months ago

        Lol people should feel comfortable enough to admit to their kids they were a mistake. We need to normalize being able to express that so that people can learn to make better choices.

        Because the alternative is the child finds out through negative actions and abuse. Lying to your kid their whole lies that they were wanted is like lying about then being adopted. They will make the connection once they make the same mistake and it is too late.