Venting but also asking. (PC is a lvl 6 fighter)

I play at a table I usually thoroughly enjoy. BUT, the table is constantly talking out-of-game either arguing with the DM or formulating plans for the current scenario.

It’s not uncommon for these discussions to take 15-20 minutes before we actually do anything. Things as simple as how to open a door. (Not a joke)

I decided after a few frustrating sessions that if they were going to stand around and do nothing, I was going to make my character just do things to move the plot along.

Almost every single time I announce my player is going to do something or go somewhere slightly ahead of the group, he is immediately ambushed/charmed/trapped/surrounded/etc. If I decide to just open the door, instantly hit with multiple arrows and spells.

The DM jokingly comments about how often my PC is in trouble by himself but I literally don’t know what else to do in game other than just stand there and wait.

At this point I don’t even care if my PC dies, I am literally just using him to move the game along.

I’ve mentioned keeping the discussions in game a few times now but nothing seems to change. Am I resigned to this fate?