Indigenous Canadian from northern Ontario. Believe in equality, Indigenous rights, minority rights, LGBTQ+, women’s rights and do not support war of any kind.

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  • IninewCrow@lemmy.catoGreentext@sh.itjust.worksAnon carpools
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    1 day ago

    I’d pay the 0.50 euro as soon a possible without a word.

    Then never offer to drive to do anything with them again.

    I’ve found that people who do this are either doing it as a joke and will let you know right away … or they are dead serious and it’s the kind of person you really want to avoid in every kind of way.


  • I grew up poor in the 1980s and my mom’s go to recipes was ‘Hamburger Helper’ … basically mac 'n cheese with ground beef … or boxed mashed potatoes (because they were cheaper than actual potatoes where we were in the far north) with either canned corned beef, diced Spam or cut up boiled weiners

    I remember I used to love the mashed potatoes and canned corned beef as a kid … I tried it a year ago and I could not believe I used to gobble that up as a kid, it was disgusting to me as an adult.


  • An old friend I used to ride with would often scratch his helmet as if to scratch his head all the time. I would often forget that he did this and I would honestly think he was scratching his head … then realize several minutes and several miles down the road that he’s wearing a freakin helmet. If he wore this kind of helmet AND scratched his head, I would have died laughing as I rode off the highway and into the bushes.








  • Might as well be … you have no idea of the sadness I feel. I am completely normal, I go about my work and I do the things I always did before … on the outside everything is perfectly normal. Unfortunately, my mind, my thoughts and my perception of the world has changed … I no longer feel the same sense of joy and happiness of doing things … I always go back to thinking of the person I lost and how she is not here any more … it’s pervasive and deep. I feel like someone has draped a big heavy wet blanket over me and it hangs on me all the time. And yes … the colors of the world don’t seem to be as bright any more … they don’t fill me with the same awe and happiness they once did. They do cheer me up but it’s like lighting a tiny candle in a deep dark cave.

    I’ve lost lots of people in my life … my brother, my aunts and uncles … friends from my age group, friends who were older, friends who were younger … my grandparents … both my parents … and I’ve handled all those with a lot acceptance and understanding … I lived through them with my wife who supported me through all of it … but this … this is like having your soul removed and you feel like you are operating your body like an empty vessel. Life feels very mechanical now … I go about doing things like I always did but everything is without meaning now and I constantly wonder why I am doing anything.


  • Enjoy every moment with her. There will be times of differences, arguments and disagreements … work your way through them and if there is ever any bad feeling, always go back and apologize … none of it matters. The greatest things that hurt the most right now are the memories of how I wanted to win arguments and got angry and mad over some stupid things. No relationship is ever perfect, you will miss out on things you like or want to do … but the same will be true for her … both of you will lose on certain things because you both want to be together. That is all within reason too … if either one of you is outright abusing or taking advantage of the other and the relationship is completely lopsided, then you got to leave that situation. Otherwise … shrug off any bad feelings, always go back and talk through them, no one is keeping score or racking up points … because in the end, all you will ever miss is being with that person whether in good times or in bad.

    Enjoy whatever time you have together because if you think you have years or decades to be together … in the end, no matter how long it lasted, it feels like no time has gone by at all.


  • …soooooooo, you thought the default number of thrusts that 99% of men could accomplish was…one thrust?

    You’re debating my eight year old self here … who lived in a remote village … in the north … where we had two TV channels … one radio station … no newspapers … terrible grade school … and parents who were born in the wilderness and abused by religious nuts in a residential school … parents who never, ever absolutely ever wanted to have any acknowledgement that the world even included the idea of sex between adults

    I didn’t fully understand the concept of sex until I was about 16 … and even then, it was a pretty dumb introduction and education that it took my another decade before I could appreciate it properly



  • This is basically what conversations and debates around sex sounded like before the internet … especially if you were a kid or a teenager. No one had a clue and every once in a while, some idiot with a bit of information would come forward and confidently make statements like this and we couldn’t agreed or disagree with them because no one could verify the information.

    I remember one conversation when I was about eight and some older kid telling us that the number of thrusts you made when you had sex was the number of children you would have. And for the longest time I believed that.

    Another one I heard as a teenager had to do with Asians … specifically Chinese women … people said that they had a vaginal canal that was like a corkscrew and it was really hard to get in there.

    The dumb shit we heard and believed or semi-believed when we were growing up … which is why people like Sue Johanson on late night TV in Canada was a breath of fresh air … she had a talk show on late night TV with sex education and she talked about all the factual, scientific, medical stuff about sex and we learned lots from her. Seriously, look her up and find her videos.

    https://youtu.be/hrtuATYF-k8