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The original was posted on /r/exmormon by /u/Specialist_Secret_58 on 2024-09-19 20:41:22+00:00.

Back in the day, my wife and I talked about how to handle the differences in desire for sexual frequency. It was always good, but I wanted it more often than she did and I never wanted her to feel pressured. So we settled on masturbation when our desires didn’t match up. One day, just out of curiosity, I asked my bishop about it. He couldn’t get off the topic fast enough. He literally said “that’s none of my business.” I was surprised because when I was a kid, they acted like it was definitely their business. I then asked several friends (about a dozen) who either had been or were then bishops. All of them, without exception, said two things: 1) none of my business and 2) I can’t believe you actually talk to your wife about it. The reason for my post is to inquire if any of you, as a married person, brought this subject up with a bishop. If so, how did it go? I was pretty shocked by the responses I got and I doubt they are representative.